I'm just curious about custody arrangements. My DH and other families I know have a shared custody arrangement of kids switching houses every few days or every other week. This seems to be the norm where I live, but a lot of posters on here deal with weekends only, and not every weekend even. What do you do?
DH has custody and BM gets EOWE and 1 day a week of both boys, but only SS11 goes over to her home. When DH was NCP he had EOWE.
My DH has every Monday, Tuesday and alternating Fri, Sat, Sun nights. BM has every Wed, Thurs, alternating Fri, Sat, Sun nights. This is a 2-2-5-5 schedule, 50/50 split. We wanted an every other week, but this is what BM would agree to, so it's what we took.
There is no custody agreement in our situation. They will see each other when BF can come here to visit kiddo in our state and then I am sure they will both make trips back and forth over the years.
If they were in the same state, I am sure we would do a weekend a month unless it wasn't too far, then it could be more often.
If they were in the same city, i'm sure kiddo would want to go over there more often than that.
That is all hypothetical though, since they are not close, distance wise, and it would have to be what they are comfortable with as well.
I actually only know one couple that are divorced and share custody and if I remember right, I think they just do what the kids want... a week here, a week there. The youngest is 9 though and I think that makes it easier.
When BM was CP DH had EOWE, holidays were on an even/ odd year schedule, and one week in the summer BM was required to give. DH could ask for additional time, but BM was not required to approve if it conflicted with her schedule. BM now has EOWE and holidays/ extra time with DH approval. Not sure how/if the schedule will change now that BM has moved out of the area.
Who pays the sitter?
- Bertieb
on May. 9, 2012 at 11:15 AM