Do you and/or other kids get invited

[Moms2NTwins]

If BM/skids invite your DH/SO to something (ball game, ballet, church program, birthday party, celebration dinner) do they invite you? Do they invite your children and/or children with DH? Does your Dh go without you if you arent invited?

[looneytunes290]

He wouldn't unless I profusely insisted he go because I just didn't want to. If it were a situation where I were specifically not invited like they told him I shouldn't come he wouldn't go, even if I begged him to.

[leegirl_jm]

He wouldn't go, they don't have that type of a relationship.

[packermomof2]

We don't invite SM or her kids if we invite dad to something.  If he doesn't want to go because she isn't welcome that is fine with us.  It won't change the fact that my kids are going to play the game, be in the show, whatever... it just means he missed out on something his kids were doing because only he wanted his wife there.

He does go without her when he is invited though.  Which isn't very often.

[liltigersmom]

Nope, I don't invite sm, now if she was so inclined to chaperone, than she can purchase her own plane ticket.

Ex and sm have no kids together, tg.

[atownrb]

We don't get "invited" we keep track of the kids stuff ourselves via school or whatever and we go. He would never even consider going without me and we really don't give any thought to whether BM wants us or me there or not because it's not about her it's about the kids.

[newwife1]

BM doesn't tell DH about anything, so he doesn't get invited unless she wants him to pay for it, like his Orthodontist appointment.

SS was visiting and mentioned he was going to be an alter boy at mass on Sunday. DH asked him which church they now attended and said he would like to go, SS told him he couldn't tell him.

The few baseball games that DH was told about I didn't want to attend. Watching little kids play sports isn't my thing:)

[hershey6]

Yes, I always get invited to everything along with DH.  It is more or less expected that I be there as well.

[YesImMomToo]

Ditti to this. Since dh is custodial and were the only ones who do ecs with kids (bm refuses her choice) its usually us who do the inviting if we even do.

Given the few times we did she and her family brought drama and severly impacted the kids she is generally not invited. When she wants to be involved weve offered to alternate because its about the kids and minimizing trauma for them.

But yes if dh is invited its a boundary from 4 years ago that i will attend with him.

Quoting atownrb:

We don't get "invited" we keep track of the kids stuff ourselves via school or whatever and we go. He would never even consider going without me and we really don't give any thought to whether BM wants us or me there or not because it's not about her it's about the kids.

[Mommy4000]

Yes, my kids and I are always invited along with my husband. We don't tend to accept invites from BM though. My husband refuses to spend much time with her. She did take my kids to laser tag once for her youngest childs birthday, but it was more because my 16 year old step daughter wanted them to come.

[MommySabs]

Bm never tells us anything about when things are we just keep track of when his stuff is. We always give her the info if it comes home on dhs week. It is assumed that is dh goes the other kids and I will be there as it is assumed that her bf will likely be there. That being said she rarely shows up for anything so we always make sure as many of us can go as possible so he has a good cheering section.