My husband has two biological grandchildren in another state. We just celebrated our 4th anniversary and have known each other for five years. We knew each other before one of the grandchildren was born. When we visit, we are treated nicely, but I am given no name. I would like a grandmotherly type name, but it doesn't have to be grandma. As it stands right now, the grandchildren have no idea what to call me. At Christmas, one of them referred to me as "that girl." My feelings were really hurt, but I tried to be mature about it and didn't bring it up to my husband until about a month later. I have done all I know to do to show love and support. My instinct is to teach them myself to call me by my first name, since it is evident their parents do know want me to have a grandmother name. My son-in-law's mother is dead, so there is only one biological grandmother as it is. Some other young friends that we are close to have two little ones and they call me KK. That helps. At least I know I do have that type of role in their lives. They live away also. Makes me want to go to see them more than the others. Anyone have any advice other than I need to get over it and go on?