My stepkids live with me. They are13 and 11 and have been living with DH and I since they were toddlers. BM has very little to do with them. MIL and GMIL worship the ground they walk on to the point that they criticize our parenting. Skids go and tell the in laws EVERYTHING that goes on in our household. Sometimes they tell lies and in laws believe everything they say. They play favorites between my stepchildren and my biological children(favoring my stepchildren) It's caused division in my household.
My children dont even like going to my in laws house, but my stepchildren can't get enough and if they had a choice they would rather live with my in laws because they spoil them with money and gifts and let them do whatever they want. They have no chores or responsibility with their grandparents so they are brainwashed into thinking the grass is greener on the other side. I'm sick of all the drama. Being a stepmom sucks and if I could do it all over again....(Just needed to vent)