Why is it worse when a SM oversteps vs. a BM who does it constantly?
A SM of 2 ss's 12.5&16.
Why does it seem so much worse when a stepmom Oversteps but when a BM does it,SM's should just "let it go" and stay quiet?
As SM's,I feel we sacrifice a lot of our freedom. The freedom to say something,to debate,to try something new.I know they are not our bio kids,and Dh should handle it. But when is enough,enough?!
Why is it worse when sm's overstep vs. bm's who do it all the time? You can answer w out my example;)
(((((((Example: I'm pissed this week. ESP.yesterday & today.(If you know my Stich,I've complained a lot about this) Tues,I get out of my Car from
Dropping off my dd's from School,of course BM is there in her car waiting for her sons to get ready for school at my Home on her week As always!
I was close enough to where I felt inclined to say hello(her window was down,she was smoking,then I seen a cigarette butt on my sidewalk later!)
Bm didn't say hello back😠.Yss found a clean shirt,put it on then I heard BM yell,Bring another clean shirt!(I was laying in dd's room)
Are you freaking kidding me!?! It's my pet peeve to have these kids dirty,there will always be clean clothes here,BUT I've decided I'm going to try to speak up before the school year ends!
I will not go through another year of this BS! She needs to know I am not someone you walk on and she needs to mom up and take Better care of her sons and this is not normal))))))
Why is it so bad that I "can't" do this? Why is this a no-no?
Some Bitches 'need to be told!!!!! Lol. I'm Serious. Why is so wrong when a SM speaks up for herself to the BM? Or vice versa.
I think there are times for YOUR self when you need to stand up
For yourself!!!! Whoever it is!!!!!!!
Wow!! My SD asks to wear clothes from our house when she's at BM, but I've never experienced BM just expecting to bring her by to get something clean to wear! I think I'd flip a gasket!! Lol! I'd definately have to ask my DH to handle that situation and I would probably tell BM that she needed to do laundry every week, not just when she felt like it!! (Sometimes I just can't help myself!) I also think I would have picked up the cigarette butt and put it in her window and said, here, you left this as I walked into my house....
Quoting Steamedpuddle30:
What's that saying?(movie)
Some Bitches 'need to be told!!!!! Lol. I'm Serious. Why is so wrong when a SM speaks up for herself to the BM? Or vice versa.
I think there are times for YOUR self when you need to stand up
For yourself!!!! Whoever it is!!!!!!!
I agree, but I think it all depends on the stitch.
I personally think some women are way too sensitive. They forget that it is not about them, it is about making a good life for the children. Hammy always sees everything as about her. She sees DH wanting to communicate as harrassment. She sees him disagreeing with her as being abusive to her. She puts a negative spin on most things as far as I can see.
I think sometimes there are times when you need to speak up for yourself. I have done it once with Hammy and once with her DD. I had enough of their nonsense.
At the same time, I wouldn't make a habit of it.
I hear ya. BM does the clothes thing to us whenever she thinks she has to have the girls "extra". She was going to have the girls ONE more day than usual last week because I was taking fiance' to Vegas for his birthday. When the girls left with her on Wed, SD 1 came back in the house minutes later and when fiance' asked what she forgot, SD 1 said that BM told her to grab more panties an a couple of "bras". WTF? It's not like the girls are here so much more that clothes are coming from BM's house and not making it back. Her trick is to send them to us in last year's ass-tight clothes and then the go back to her house in clothes that fit. Urrrgh!!! Anyway, fiance' told SD 1 to tell her mom to DO SOME LAUNDRY or buy them clothes for a change. AND he always tells her to buy them clothes. Now she just sends them back in for clothes so she doesn't have to deal with him telling her to buy them more clothes! What a cheapskate...sheesh.
She just says that OSS makes
Her And she plays this sad role that it's the boys fault.
My Dh doesn't really See how stupid and sad it looks when my
Skid walks in w no socks,and in the same outfit as yesterday.
BM Played the mad role after that and told the skids "dad doesn't WANT YOU AT HIS HOME" it sucked.
Quoting Kylie0427:
I understand where u are coming from. If I were u I would tell my dh that he needs to put her in place or you will. This is your house too and u need the same respect u are expected to give her
Very Proud!!!!!!
- Steamedpuddle30
on May. 16, 2012 at 11:19 AM