I dont know how many of you have similar issues or can help, but I need advise. My SD is destroying our relationship. DH (cracks me up as I don't abbreviate well. LOL) just doesn't get it. He wants to pretend all is good when it's not. SD lies, manipulates, steals, etc and has been doing so since the ripe old age of 13 that we KNOW of. SD is such a prob that Mom and step dad cannot handle her as they have 3 other children whom she manipulates, threatens, etc. I am so frustrated I am considering leaving. Life is too short. But I love my DH and know once she is gone in 2 more years we will be fine. Not so sure I can sit back and "pretend" for 2 more years. Definitely sure no one should HAVE to do this. It's a nightmare and I just can't wake up. What do I do?
a- stick it out and hope it gets better...which I have no doubt won't. SD slapped me a week ago and I still have a black eye. No DH didn't do anything other than tell her to not do it again.
b- leave and wonder what i could have done to save it
c- I don't know! SD is going to be 16 in another month. Good thing is DH did call Mom and she is going to spend 5 - 6 weeks with her starting 6/1. But I am so hurt, angry, you name it, I just a mess!
Please someone help me. Gosh, this sounds pathetic to be begging total strangers for their help. You have no idea how far gone I must be to even consider let alone do this.
SD has prob created from her Mom being diagnosed with Munchhousen by Proxy (know this cannot be spelled right) and she was the one Mom put all the issues on. I am doing my best to focus on SD pain rather than my own. But oh that is super-hard most days. In recent months she has accused DH of molesting her to her BF but when confronted, she denies it. SD has accused DH's friend of same but then denies it. She has been to counselors but never mentioned any of this. I cannot imagine what is going on in SD sick mind!
Thank you for any advise you have.
Your desperate newest member