I'm 8 months pregnant.
My BF has a 5 year old son. I met him a couple of times last summer, but now he lives in another state.
I'm wondering....well, really I don't know what to do. I'm not even sure when I'll meet him again. So, I guess we'll just say this is a first meeting whenever it does happen.
He does have some behavior issues. I don't want to upset him or anything...but I also don't want him to feel like I'm ignoring him or anything like that.
Then there's the issue with his mom and her family. She can have her moments when it's just like WOW. Her family is a constant moment of WOW! Like, they've tracked me down on facebook and on twitter and started attcking me online. Just...crazy stuff.
I want to approach this the best way possible, because I really think my BF is going to be my husband one day, so I mean, I don't want to be one of those where years go by and the teenage kid is just like "oh, that's my dads wife"..although my cousin DOES call my aunt by her first name..he didn't even start calling her his mom until he was in college LOL...she raised him from age 7....but he knows she did everything for him a mother should do..I guess it just took him awhile?
I also don't want to have high expectations like "oh we're one BIG OL HAPPY FAMILY" I'm just not sure that's going to happen.... is it likely that I will just be "dad's wife" and my daughter will just be "the other kid"...I really want them to have a relationship but I know this isn't an ideal world. Any advice or suggestions would be nice and hopefully helpful.