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How to discipline a child that doesn't care

Posted by on May. 17, 2012 at 1:54 PM
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Just a child/ teenager in general. If they don't care what you take away, or do? Yet they still continue to get in trouble.
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RelaxedMom2-3
by on May. 17, 2012 at 1:56 PM
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Make them do stuff around the house. Wash dishes, pick up dog poop, clean bathrooms etc. Then they will start caring.

angelmommy2806
by on May. 17, 2012 at 2:14 PM
What if that doesn't faze them?

Quoting RelaxedMom2-3:

Make them do stuff around the house. Wash dishes, pick up dog poop, clean bathrooms etc. Then they will start caring.

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YesImMomToo
by on May. 17, 2012 at 2:17 PM
Have you sat down as a family and asked them what consequences they feel appropiate for x y z? Then agreeing on to set terms as a family?

Including them in the process can go a long way to finding something that works.
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angelmommy2806
by on May. 17, 2012 at 2:27 PM
We have. She rolls her eyes and says she doesn't care. There's no respect from her at all.

Quoting YesImMomToo:

Have you sat down as a family and asked them what consequences they feel appropiate for x y z? Then agreeing on to set terms as a family?



Including them in the process can go a long way to finding something that works.
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newstepmom61811
by on May. 17, 2012 at 2:31 PM

Look online for parenting "time-ins". It's a more active form of discipliing for kids resistant to time-outs, restrictions to rooms, or taking things away...very creative, pulls an apathetic kid into more family involvement.

newstepmom61811
by on May. 17, 2012 at 2:32 PM

And on another note, if this is a teen that apathetice that there is nothing this kid misses or that hits a nerve, this teen needs depression screening/evaluation...

YesImMomToo
by on May. 17, 2012 at 2:35 PM
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Then she's got bigger issues

Have you had her screened for medical or psychological issues?


Quoting angelmommy2806:

We have. She rolls her eyes and says she doesn't care. There's no respect from her at all.



Quoting YesImMomToo:

Have you sat down as a family and asked them what consequences they feel appropiate for x y z? Then agreeing on to set terms as a family?





Including them in the process can go a long way to finding something that works.
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angelmommy2806
by on May. 17, 2012 at 2:42 PM
She's been diagnosed with depression, but the psychiatrist thinks she maybe bi polar. She's in counseling 4 days a week about 3 hours a day.
Quoting YesImMomToo:

Then she's got bigger issues



Have you had her screened for medical or psychological issues?


Quoting angelmommy2806:

We have. She rolls her eyes and says she doesn't care. There's no respect from her at all.



Quoting YesImMomToo:

Have you sat down as a family and asked them what consequences they feel appropiate for x y z? Then agreeing on to set terms as a family?







Including them in the process can go a long way to finding something that works.
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CherryBlossom4
by on May. 17, 2012 at 2:45 PM

I think some kids go through that at a certain age. My son had things that he hated and then he went through this time arounf age 7 where he didn't care about any discipline at all. We trudged through it and kept at it... taking away his favortite items and having him do extra chores. We didn't try new things back to back, otherwise he would have seen that we doubted ourselves. So, we kept on keeping on. Eventually he did show that he cared, after a few months of being consistant. No video games, tv, favorite toys, sleepovers or extra activities. 

She doesn't have to CARE about doing extra chores, she just has to do them. You can't make her care. I'd just keep giving her things to do. If she rolls her eyes, that is disrepectful and add another chore to it. Eventually, she is going to learn that she can't be disrespectul. Even if that means most of her summer break is going to be spent cleaning up and having extra duties. 

YesImMomToo
by on May. 17, 2012 at 3:12 PM

 I would agree.

She is dealing with a phsycholgical illness. Respect is taught, even if is frustrating for you.
 She may never CARE about your discipline, but that doesn't mean you should stop.

Quoting CherryBlossom4:

I think some kids go through that at a certain age. My son had things that he hated and then he went through this time arounf age 7 where he didn't care about any discipline at all. We trudged through it and kept at it... taking away his favortite items and having him do extra chores. We didn't try new things back to back, otherwise he would have seen that we doubted ourselves. So, we kept on keeping on. Eventually he did show that he cared, after a few months of being consistant. No video games, tv, favorite toys, sleepovers or extra activities. 

She doesn't have to CARE about doing extra chores, she just has to do them. You can't make her care. I'd just keep giving her things to do. If she rolls her eyes, that is disrepectful and add another chore to it. Eventually, she is going to learn that she can't be disrespectul. Even if that means most of her summer break is going to be spent cleaning up and having extra duties. 

 

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