Please help what can I do? I desperately need your advice!
So I am a bit pissed and irritated and I want to write back and answer this! I think this is bullshit! I will let you read what she wrote in a e-mail and then you can tell me what you think.For the record when she had custody of her SD got to do her school play, talent show, science camp, and a full two months of tennis which was all on my husbands parenting time with out asking our permission first and we let her go! We didn't get to see SD for almost two months cause of the tennis season but we said OK cause it was what SD wanted to do!We ask her permission on everything for SD to be nice and out of consideration!We did have SD call her! When SD got off the phone she was crying! It's such bull shit! Her only responsibilities is to be a 11 year old little girl!Please ladies: Step moms: Bio Moms: really would you guilt trip your kid this way? This is not OK! Do you think this is OK to do to a 11 year old little girl who's been through hell and back?Her mom just got out of her 3rd marriage, and is constantly moving around and her last step dad just became her uncle! She's been through hell! She doesn't need the guilt trip for wanting to be a dame kid!Sorry ladies but I love this little girl she's been in my life since 2001 she means the world to me to me she's my daughter too! I have helped raise her. She tells me shes hurting and that her mom is hurting her feelings. I don't know what to do! Please help!
This is the email we got today from her in her words spelling and all:
I dont mind if ****** goes to these last schools functions of the school year. I would like make up days sometime this summer to get this weekends days. I would like to get back during summer vacation. I would like for ******* to call me and discuss these days though because I'm dissapointed she didnt feel it was nececcary to call me and talk about missing time with me. I think she needs to understand she does affect other people with her decisions and should have talked to me about it. I dont mind her going but when shes here and speaks of missing me and wanting more time with me but then turning around and wanting to go to dances or whatever is not a pattern of behavoirs I want her sticking too...family should always come first. Like I said I'm fine with her going, but she does need to be told about her responsibilties to both her families and not make too big of a habit of choosing things over her family..and I hope youre on board with that. I would think you are because when ******* was with me there were not hardly any times you would allow her to go to functions that were on your weekends. So I'm kinda asking you to back me up with her on this. Thanks for the email..tell her I love her and ask her to shoot me a call today or tomorrow please.