I would just like to add that it is possible that the husband could have changed the address with the post office and he still could have gotten mail at the ex wive's house especially if she still carries his last name. I have had mail go to my BIL's house and I have never lived there or had mail delivered there. Mail has also come to my house for MIL who lived in adifferent state and DH had mail go to GMIL's house who lived in a different state. Dont know why that happened but it does happen.
Quoting angelqueen617:I would just like to add that it is possible that the husband could have changed the address with the post office and he still could have gotten mail at the ex wive's house especially if she still carries his last name. I have had mail go to my BIL's house and I have never lived there or had mail delivered there. Mail has also come to my house for MIL who lived in adifferent state and DH had mail go to GMIL's house who lived in a different state. Dont know why that happened but it does happen.
Then we can fix her.
It will all be quite therapeutic.
After all he has "I forgot and now it's your issue syndrome"
Quoting Steamedpuddle30:
Makes pretty babies,don't let ppl call your Dh a moron or idiot. ONLY YOU CAN DO THAT;) that's only your right to do so. My Dh and I work in a give and take and give give give realtionship. We back eachother up. He likes to do certain things in our marriage that I hate to do(clean the fridge!)and I like to do certain things he hates(look stuff up online,change any and all papers. Sort stuff,ect...
I think (like my parents and my bro and SIL) it works for THEM. I just feel if your Dh wants you to handle the DMV,do it,not bc he's an idiot,bc you love him enough to wait at that stupid line at the DMV. I would do it
And my Dh is a smart dude,just doesn't like this stuff.
He does stuff I hate and I do stuff he hates. It's about partnership at the end. BUT,if you don't like it,tell him you'd rather not deal with that stuff.
Just do what works for you in your Stich;) jmo.
Only he can stop this kind of shit. He needs to step over his ego and tell his ex wife to mind her own business. No one has any business opening another person's mail without their express consent.
I agree that if she can help with a ticket, why not, they are after all, forever tied to each other because of the kids.
Quoting MakesPrtyBabies:
This is a ridiculous post. If they have been divorced for 3 yrs, why the F hasn't he changed his address on his license??? I can't help but think she was being facetious, because when she was advised of who is IN CHARGE, she said, ok, I'm walking to the trash can, YOU GO ON WITH YOUR BAD SELF, new wife.
"It's not the evil people in the world that scares me, it's the ones that don't do anything about it."
~ Albert Einstein
*grin* it's all too common!
Quoting chanizen:
No. Apparently we can call people any thing we want.... In the name of healing. See first she should get angry with the idiot.
Then we can fix her.
It will all be quite therapeutic.
After all he has "I forgot and now it's your issue syndrome"
Quoting Steamedpuddle30:
Quoting whatIknownow:Huh? she opened his mail and saw that it was a ticket (you mean like speeding ticket or parking ticket)? and she offered to help him take care of it?
Well opening his mail was wrong...
But I don't get why you have a problem with her offering to help him get out of the ticket. Does she know someone at the court or police station, is that why she offered?
I don't get the "he's MY husband now" comment. Only a wife can help someone?
how do you know she is trying to control and piss off the new wife? It wasn't the new wife's mail she opened. Her actions had absolutely nothing to do with the new wife.
Quoting shekyram:
He IS her husband now and the ex should be doing NOTHING for him. If that's the case she should have stayed the wife. She is doing it to control and piss the new wife off! I joined this group because of the stress I have been dealing with for the last 3 years with my husbands ex, when she did not give 2 shits about him OR her kids that he has custody of before we married. But sometimes it seems like we get ridiculed more on this website. What's the purpose?
Quoting whatIknownow:Huh? she opened his mail and saw that it was a ticket (you mean like speeding ticket or parking ticket)? and she offered to help him take care of it?
Well opening his mail was wrong...
But I don't get why you have a problem with her offering to help him get out of the ticket. Does she know someone at the court or police station, is that why she offered?
I don't get the "he's MY husband now" comment. Only a wife can help someone?
Quoting MamaKat227:Quoting MakesPrtyBabies:
This is a ridiculous post. If they have been divorced for 3 yrs, why the F hasn't he changed his address on his license??? I can't help but think she was being facetious, because when she was advised of who is IN CHARGE, she said, ok, I'm walking to the trash can, YOU GO ON WITH YOUR BAD SELF, new wife.
After 3 years of having his mail come to my house because he cant' figure out how to change his address with the DMV, I'd probably do the same thing.
She should have treated the mail like she would have if it was someone's mail down the street that got misdelivered, period. Contact the person if you know them and tell them you got it and what do they want to do or put a note to the mail carrier that person no longer resides there and send it back. We get mail delivered to our address for prior owners 5+ years ago. It's usually not the person who moved at fault.
It was none of her business to open it or comment on it. I understand how you feel.
Would you be insulted? And a second question...
- MakesPrtyBabies
on May. 21, 2012 at 2:23 PM