We are having a birthday party for SD9, soon to be 10 this weekend. We have never had birthday parties with BM. We have always had them seperately and neither one of us goes to the other one. For some reason now, BM might be coming to our birthday party for SD. I don't want to get into the long story but she is the worst. We have had protection orders on her for SD, she manipulates and steals from SD, she is a drug addict and criminal. Anyway, like I said, it's a long story. SD lives with us full time and will have her birthday with her mother the following weekend. So why does she have to come to ours? Ugh!! I can't even stand to be in the same room as this woman. If she comes to the birthday party I am leaving. Is that so wrong? I think it would be better for SD and everyone else there if I was not there in a bad mood becuse BM is there. Has anyone else ever left a birthday party because of this or am I overreacting. I'm just not sure I will be able to keep my calm with her there. Not that I would ever say anything to her or start anything. I just can't hide my feelings well and everyone will know I am mad about something.