We are having a birthday party for SD9, soon to be 10 this weekend. We have never had birthday parties with BM. We have always had them seperately and neither one of us goes to the other one. For some reason now, BM might be coming to our birthday party for SD. I don't want to get into the long story but she is the worst. We have had protection orders on her for SD, she manipulates and steals from SD, she is a drug addict and criminal. Anyway, like I said, it's a long story. SD lives with us full time and will have her birthday with her mother the following weekend. So why does she have to come to ours? Ugh!! I can't even stand to be in the same room as this woman. If she comes to the birthday party I am leaving. Is that so wrong? I think it would be better for SD and everyone else there if I was not there in a bad mood becuse BM is there. Has anyone else ever left a birthday party because of this or am I overreacting. I'm just not sure I will be able to keep my calm with her there. Not that I would ever say anything to her or start anything. I just can't hide my feelings well and everyone will know I am mad about something.
I've never left a party because BF is there. I really can't say that I hate him like that. We don't get along, but the hate isn't that strong. If you think it's too much for you, or the mood will be ruined then I would say maybe staying away is the best idea. Go see a nice chick flick with a friend.
Quoting MommyMadness09:She invites herself to everything. Like my wedding too! Couldn't really start an argument or leave on my wedding day though.
I think that for now on, parties need to be kept on the down low when it comes to BM then.
I get along with my ex (his family as well) and we do not do the shared birthday party thing with DD15. Never have.
I think that BD needs to set some boundaries with BM. If he cannot, then if the option is you not being there, then go do as ErinRenee suggested and go see a chick flick with a friend or just go hang out with a friend for the time of the party. Honestly though, you should not have to leave because she invited herself. BD needs to set some serious boundaries with BM.
Can't your DH tell her not to come?
is this at your house?
Ok I think this is a problem with your DH. He needs to put his foot down and tell her. Her coming to your wedding is insanity and if she is having her own party for sd the next weekend there is no need for her to her at yours...tell him it is like a bandaid...once he does it she will get the hint and not do it again. I think my DH said to BM "its not that I don't like you....it's just that I feel so much better when you are not around"...that did it for us.
Have your DH or yourself kindly explain to her that you guys would like to keep her parties seperate like it has been in the past no hard feeling just respectful business. You shouldnt leave the party due to the fact that its you and ur dh's party that you are giving for SD. Since her mother is planning her party the following weekend she can wake to next weekend. But do not leave the party that your hosting!!!
How do you think SD will feel when you leave her birthday party? There's no way I would leave because BM came. Just keep telling yourself she'll be gone soon, she'll be gone soon. I would find who let her come and have a heart to heart. DH should let her know it's not a good idea.
I attended many parties where BM came. Some were at my house. Not my favorite thing to do.
I said I'm the one paying for this party, if she shows up I will leave.
What it came down to is she never showed. She overreacted and made an ass out of herself, realizing she was wrong.
My advice to you, is if she shows up , keep your head up, don't let this woman drive you away. Be yourself, have fun. Cause it will only show your skid how negative your being even though it's her. Be the better pson, clearly it sounds like you intimidate her. Show a good example to your skid and show them..you are here to stay whether she is thereof not. Cause your there for them.m
It's easy for me to say, but I have actually been there, some smiles are fake on my end, but afterwards I feel proud of myself. I got thru it,, and she didn't win
Would you be insulted? And a second question...
- MommyMadness09
on May. 24, 2012 at 2:16 PM