I am a brand new member. I don't really have a lot of issues or problems with being a stepmother, because my stepson is really a nice little boy. He's 7, and we get along. I am pregnant, he is almost as excited as my husband and I, and his mom, while not our best friend, is polite. There is no drama when we have to drop off or pick up, everyone goes to school for the events and awards, its all very calm.
I have recently come into a financial windfall. Its mine, in my name only. Because we didn't think it was a big deal, the subject was mentioned when my stepson was with us. Not in a detailed way, just my mom talking about it, and asking me what I planned to do in regards to it. I guess he mentioned it to his mom, which is kind of weird, and she has been burning up my cell and email ever since.
She feels entitled to my financial change in some part! That is crazy to me!
In order to be clear, I won some money through a state lotto. My state is not one that makes you come out in public, which was great, so I didn't. I didn't think it was a big deal, so I wasn't concerned about my stepson overhearing anything. I guess I should have been concerned.
Things have gotten so bad that the ex wife has had a lawyer call me. Why would she do this? I work, my money has never been an issue before. Why is it now? How do I handle this? My husband has told me I need to get my own lawyer. I have a family lawyer we all use for wills and things like that, but my husband says I need a different kind. I am not sure what he means. I know he sounds really unhelpful, but he is battling his ex wife also because she has filed for a change in custody and child support, based on my winning the lotto.
Has anyone been through this? Maybe not the lotto thing, but the ex wife wanting to change things and get money from the stepmother? Is this allowed?