My 4 year old and his dad... help

[Kenre]

My ex told my 4 year old that he wont be getting his lovie back, because Uncle has taken it. It is a stuff owl that my son thinks protects him when the 'bad owls' come out at night to steal away children. I have been having a hard time with him now for the two weeks he hasnt had his owl. He asked his dad for his owl back and I couldnt believe his dad said 'No.' My sons' uncle took it and their dad said my 4 year old can ask him for it back. The uncle is 22 years old! I am at a loss here. My son wants his owl back. I want that owl back. I cant believe two men think it is ok to steal from a 4 year old! Help. How do I phrase my email so that I am very clear that my son is to have his owl back this weekend. We are in a custody battle, so I need polite firmness and I am too livid and tired. --UPDATE-- He returned the kids with no owl. 4 year old told me yesterday that he doesnt need the owl anymore. He said it right when he got out of his dad's mom's van. He certainly wasnt saying that at midnight when he wanted the owl to keep the bad owls away. I reminded him what he said earlier and he said that is what daddy and uncle told him. I guess I am going to borrow money for a new owl.

[ErinRenee815]

I'd try getting a new owl first and see how that goes over with DS. 

There is no great way to word the email. Be blunt, to the point, and discuss nothing else. 

[Kenre]

Its a large snowy owl I got on the other side of the country at the Discovery store years ago. I havent seen many large owl stuffed toys. I will try.

Quoting ErinRenee815:

I'd try getting a new owl first and see how that goes over with DS. 

There is no great way to word the email. Be blunt, to the point, and discuss nothing else. 

[E_is_4_Ethan]

forget getting a new one. 

Tell the fucker to give the owl back!

I would email him just saying everything u said here.

Just say hey......

I need to come pick up our sons owl (lovie). He really misses it, and is having a hard time dealing with it being gone. Please let me know when it's a good time for me to come pick it up. The sooner I can get it the sooner our son will be happy.

Then save the email and take it to court with you.

There is nothing wrong with communicating with your ex. It's a 4 yr. olds job. You are his mother..you need to fight for whats best for your son, and if you think not having the owl is upseting your son....stand up for him. 

[Kenre]

I had told him to bring the owl last weekend when he and his parents met me halfway to see the new baby. He lives 2 hours away. I am not suppose to be driving at all. I hurt myself going halfway last weekend, I dont think I should try 4 hour trip. Right now I have the 4 year old crawling into my bed constantly and multiple times a night. This isnt the first time my ex has kept a lovie or one of their things.

Quoting E_is_4_Ethan:

forget getting a new one. 

Tell the fucker to give the owl back!

I would email him just saying everything u said here.

Just say hey......

I need to come pick up our sons owl (lovie). He really misses it, and is having a hard time dealing with it being gone. Please let me know when it's a good time for me to come pick it up. The sooner I can get it the sooner our son will be happy.

Then save the email and take it to court with you.

There is nothing wrong with communicating with your ex. It's a 4 yr. olds job. You are his mother..you need to fight for whats best for your son, and if you think not having the owl is upseting your son....stand up for him. 

[ErinRenee815]

The reason I say try getting a new owl first is because I think this has the potential to be really explosive. If you're in the middle of a custody case it could be a bad idea. For the record I think any a-hole who will keep a kids lovie should be hung. 

[KnowItAll]

I would drive to the uncle's and get it back myself. I realize it's a long trip, but I'd do it. Other than that, I'd get a new one if I had no other choice. What a dick.

[1SpaZZedMom]

I would want to tell him that he is hurting the poor child by withholding something as special as this!  :(  Poor little guy.

I'm with Ethan on this one... short, to the point. Let the ex know that it isn't just a toy and that your son's sleep is suffering from it. If he doesn't return it, the poor child could end up with sleep deprivation due to this. And, that isn't a joke. It is Dad putting emotional stress on a 4 year old that isn't needed at all! 

And, don't you dare drive if you aren't supposed to at this point yet. Have someone drive for you or with you...

[BeautifulBottom]

i would get someone to drive you there to get it. all i keep thinkin about is that poor baby... my SS was like that with a blankie for a while.

[yesmaam]

 Um, after you smack him tell him to return or your coming over with the police.

[E_is_4_Ethan]

Give me his address or we all can harass him on his FB. LOL

Can't you find a ride?

did you at least email him about the situation?

What was his reason for not bringing it?

Quoting Kenre:

I had told him to bring the owl last weekend when he and his parents met me halfway to see the new baby. He lives 2 hours away. I am not suppose to be driving at all. I hurt myself going halfway last weekend, I dont think I should try 4 hour trip. Right now I have the 4 year old crawling into my bed constantly and multiple times a night. This isnt the first time my ex has kept a lovie or one of their things.

Quoting E_is_4_Ethan:

forget getting a new one. 

Tell the fucker to give the owl back!

I would email him just saying everything u said here.

Just say hey......

I need to come pick up our sons owl (lovie). He really misses it, and is having a hard time dealing with it being gone. Please let me know when it's a good time for me to come pick it up. The sooner I can get it the sooner our son will be happy.

Then save the email and take it to court with you.

There is nothing wrong with communicating with your ex. It's a 4 yr. olds job. You are his mother..you need to fight for whats best for your son, and if you think not having the owl is upseting your son....stand up for him.