Been on CM about 4 years now.
There is something I have observed. I know others have too.
SM's who are just pulling their hair out at the injustice the BM is doing to their sweet husbands...........
Get divorced.
And immediately turn to the otherside.
Because that sweet ex hubby of theirs now has a new bed warmer and he is wanting her to play mommy to her new skids.
It's funny to watch a previously vicious SM on these boards turn into the most extreme momma bear instincts woman you have ever seen.
It happens.....every. time.
edited to add: or they leave with their head in shame.
Yes, second wives turn into ex wives all the time. BF's second wife used to really really hate me. She actually listed me on her my space page as the person that she hated most in the world. I didn't really blame her. I wasn't nice to her at all. I was angry because BF was not paying CS or seeing the kids at that time. It pissed me off that he managed to date, marry and buy a ring while he was saying he couldn't afford CS or time to see the kids. I was downright mean. But now that she is the ex wife number two, she is very nice. As am I.
My divorce and my views as a BM now are based solely on my unique sitch. I attempt to remain open to both sides. I know my xh has personal challenges that he has to over come before I can feel less "mama bear protective." I sincerely hope he does, truly. His wife is not a blip on my radar.
PS I am still THE SHIT!!! :)
I think it is interesting that people do not learn from their or other's mistakes.
Quoting LyndaLoo78:
I can honestly own this one. Many moons ago I was a freshly hatched SM, riding in on my unicorn trailing glitter and rainbows. *I* was THE SHIT! The I got real and I began to disengage and handed the responsibilty to SD to now xh. We had kids, and I required him to step up; he opted to step out.
My divorce and my views as a BM now are based solely on my unique sitch. I attempt to remain open to both sides. I know my xh has personal challenges that he has to over come before I can feel less "mama bear protective." I sincerely hope he does, truly. His wife is not a blip on my radar.
PS I am still THE SHIT!!! :)
You ARE the shit!!!
It has nothing to do with our marriage and everything weve had to endure because of bms "injustices" ironically has only brought us closer.
Maybe I should sent bm a fruit basket with a thank you card saying thank you for being such a nutter! Its definatly taught us a few things and brought us closer as a family."
Quoting LyndaLoo78:
I can honestly own this one. Many moons ago I was a freshly hatched SM, riding in on my unicorn trailing glitter and rainbows. *I* was THE SHIT! The I got real and I began to disengage and handed the responsibilty to SD to now xh. We had kids, and I required him to step up; he opted to step out.
My divorce and my views as a BM now are based solely on my unique sitch. I attempt to remain open to both sides. I know my xh has personal challenges that he has to over come before I can feel less "mama bear protective." I sincerely hope he does, truly. His wife is not a blip on my radar.
PS I am still THE SHIT!!! :)
But but but!!!!! LYNDA! Dont you know? that SM is there to HELP you! What is wrong with you not wanting all this help around you. You are just so selfish!
LOL
sweet husband and sweet wives get divorced all the time sweetness. I'm not exempt and neither are you. When you can say that you can fully, 100% control another human beings actions then you can say you are exempt.
Quoting YesImMomToo:
Why would I divorce my sweet husband because of someone elses actions? That makes no sense?
It has nothing to do with our marriage and everything weve had to endure because of bms "injustices" ironically has only brought us closer.
Maybe I should sent bm a fruit basket with a thank you card saying thank you for being such a nutter! Its definatly taught us a few things and brought us closer as a family."
Quoting pepper504:
Quoting LyndaLoo78:
I can honestly own this one. Many moons ago I was a freshly hatched SM, riding in on my unicorn trailing glitter and rainbows. *I* was THE SHIT! The I got real and I began to disengage and handed the responsibilty to SD to now xh. We had kids, and I required him to step up; he opted to step out.
My divorce and my views as a BM now are based solely on my unique sitch. I attempt to remain open to both sides. I know my xh has personal challenges that he has to over come before I can feel less "mama bear protective." I sincerely hope he does, truly. His wife is not a blip on my radar.
PS I am still THE SHIT!!! :)You ARE the shit!!!
Who pays the sitter?
- baparrot2
on Jun. 1, 2012 at 10:57 AM