It came to my attention a long time ago that when BM knew SO was struggling, she was all happy-go-lucky, didn't mind coming inside our "house" (POS trailer before), didn't mind picking SS up or dropping him off. It was like she enjoyed seeing SO live in shitty circumstances even though it affected SS, too.
I noticed when we moved, that all changed. She saw our new place twice- once because SS wanted to show her his new room, and again when SS asked her to. After that, she started making SO meet up with her to drop SS off, or SO had to go pick SS up from her place. She also started texting him or calling him to start fights. We live near a strip mall in a nice area. However, it's very traffic heavy outside our parking lot. There's a bike trail that goes behind the strip mall and also a walking trail that goes down into the woods and over a creek behind our building. BM texted SO one night, and said, "You better not be telling SS he can go riding behind that mall by himself." "SS is NOT allowed to go walking by himself." "I don't think it is safe for him to play outside by himself because of homeless people." Seriously, one thing after another, and everything she would say were things that SO would very obviously never do. SS didn't make things better by lying to her (which, he's a kid, and probably left details out) about what SO said he could and couln't do. Like, walking to Walmart by himself. Yet another fight.
She only started doing this when SO got on his feet, got his financial situation taken care of, and moved into a really nice place. To me, it seemed as if she was/is bitter. I do not understand why she wouldn't want SS's father to be able to provide him with a better and safer home. I think it's jealousy or resentment.
Anyone else have to deal with a BM that is like this?