So about the time I think- hmmm maybe I'm the one with the problem- then wham there is reaffirmation of what I'm dealing with. This has been such a long road- there are basically three toxic people in my husbands family and several of us recognize this, one would think it would get easier to deal with as time goes on- and I'm sure it will to a degree- but it's such a sllllllooooooooow process. My husband and I are at least on the same page about it- for awhile we weren't but the behavior became so inexcusable that he could no longer ignore it. We would detach completely but one of the toxic people I'm describing is my MIL- his stepmom. We feel like she is emotionally abusive to his dad and both of us hate to not offer him support by staying in the picture.
So how do you deal with your toxic people some online advice says to stay away- something else I read is to "fight back" a little - I have always took the stay away approach, but it's not working well for me- I guess because it's hard to stay 100 percent away- and if you just stay somewhat away that seems to be used against me too. So I've been considering doing the opposite. Not staying away but being around and at everything all the time with a big ole grin on my face. With dh by my side till maybe they stay away.
on Jun. 13, 2012 at 4:22 PM