need help and advice...my ss is pushing me over the edge!!!
My ss has been a major handful lately. We have basically the same recurring issues. I'm seeking advice on how to correct the problem and different strategies my husband and I can try to get the bad behavior to stop. I've been in my ss's life since he was 3. I stepped up initially and did some disciplining because I didn't feel his behavior was acceptable and is bm didn't discipline much and it doesn't seem like men worry as much about manners, etc. So the problem is my ss has had a major attitude. You can ask him a simple question and he may cop an attitude or roll his eyes and then respond with attitude. Since I can remember dinner every night has been a very irritating time for me. I cook out of neccessity. I don't mind doing it occasionally, but after working a long day and being on my feet all day cooking is the last thing i want to do, but I force myself so my husband and ss have a nice meal every night. Well every day as soon as my ss even sees the food he says he doesn't like it, even though i make different stuff all the time and hes usually never had it. I realize kids do this, but its rude and irritates me, its not just him saying that...he will whine and complain throughout the entire meal about every little thing. I find it very rude and disrespectful and i've had to put up with it for a long time. My husband may have said something once or twice, but that its. I'm sure it doesn't bother him as much or he doesn't take notice as much because i'm the one to just put the time and effort into making it. Recently it has gotten even worse. The past week when i put food in front of him at the dinner table he has been putting his head down and pouting and fussing, mumbling and whining. Hes pushing me over the edge with this. I yelled at him last night about it because I just finally snapped. Please give me any advice possible to help correct this behavior. I just don't know what to do!!!!:(