What to do and what I do.....LOL I'm sure that doesn't make much sense. Let me explain what goes on in my house everyday.
First, so everything makes sense, let me tell you who lives her and where they are located. Its me and my SO, my mom, my sd 11, and my dds 10 and 6. My SO and I have our room and bathroom, my mom has a room and the girls (all of them) share a room. There is another bathroom in the hall.
Every morning my SO and my mom leave for work around 6. All of the girls sleep till 7:30 - 9. I dont usually wake them since it is summer. The little one is always first up and first to bed.
As they get up they will have breakfast in the kitchen. After that they will watch tv, play in their room or living room. They are allowed to have time on the computer with permission only and only one at a time. They can also go outside for the trampoline or bikes. Sometimes we will go to the lake at the end of our street and swim. I try to take them out some place everyday.
We have lunch, then snacks and then I cook dinner to be ready at 6:45 when everyone comes home for the evening.
Most days things are pretty ok. The girls pick at each other sometimes but nothing I would say isn't normal. They argue over toys and whose turn it is. And sometimes the program on tv. Nothing is ever serious and I settle it pretty quickly.
Knowing all of this you would think its pretty great around here. And for the most part it is. UNTIL DADDY COMES HOME!
This is what happens when my sd is here. She waits for an opportunity to get him alone and tell lies. She told him Monday that her and my oldest were fighting over who belongs in what bed. I had already settled the fight but she wasn't satisfied and told him so. It turned into a 3 hour fight between him and her dragging up stuff from years ago before I even knew either of them.
Tuesday morning I told all 3 of them that there will be no bullshit when daddy gets home tonight. I am not spending 3 hours listening to them fight. She told him I called her a shit-head and I am spending all night with daddy and she better be quiet.
Everyday is like this. He knows she is telling all lies and calls her out on it but it still ruins our evenings. When I talk to him on the way home he is already stressed out asking what she could possibly make up tonight and start a problem with. She leaves on Sunday but will be here for almost all of July. He is totally stressed about that.
So......What to do?
What I have done: I dont let her use her cell phone. She can not text or talk to anyone until daddy gets home. And then she is not allowed to delete any messages (this is checked online) and she has to have all conversations in front of him. She has lost the privilege to ride in the front seat of the car. She has to go to bed at the same time as the other girls.