im learning

[findingserenity]

Ok.. So far assband took me out for practice driving twice this week.and I wonder when will the third session will be. Found out he was being nice because sd will be here for I dont know how long and ill be the see glorified nanny. I told assband straight up I wont mind watching over her as long as she doesnt give me attitude (last time she did, he defended her) and respect me as the adult. I told him too that I expect he will spend time with her, after all that is what visitation is for, for the ncp to spend time with their kids. He hasnt replied. I wont be put in a situation where I dont know what to expect and what my role will be, what my job description and boundaries as well as rights. That wont work on me anymore.
This is what I texted him:
I dont mind watching over her as long as she doesnt give me attitude and respects me as the adult. I hope u dont plan to work all the time shes here, primary reason shes here is to spend time with her daddy. I cant take them out for any activity as I cant drive yet.

[pepper504]

I think that if this continues, that you need to set the ground rules and he needs to know that you mean business.

Good luck too.

[findingserenity]

Thanks. I intend too. He avoids talking to me and discussing matters so I text him.straight to the point.

Quoting pepper504:

I think that if this continues, that you need to set the ground rules and he needs to know that you mean business.

Good luck too.

[findingserenity]

His cat puke.. Before I would clean it,cause he wasnt here, now...heck no, hes here he can clean after his cat.

[ShannaBee]

Keep it up!

[Steamedpuddle30]

Bump!!

[Steamedpuddle30]

Good job! Let him do it.

Quoting findingserenity:

His cat puke.. Before I would clean it,cause he wasnt here, now...heck no, hes here he can clean after his cat.

[findingserenity]

Thanks girls! He still tries to put me down.he came home with sd and started nagging bout how I watered the plant, with his superior tone, and kept nagging..so I ask, wen r u gonna stop, u keep repeating and repeating urself. He answered me, I do it to him and I retorted, oh, so ur getting back at me? He said no and walk away, this happened infront of sd. When he told me sd give him and her mom hard time that she will give me hard time too, I said no, shes not. When my own kids give mehard time, they get disciplined, he told me I can discipline her or yell at her.good, now its clear.

[zannahdeux]

I think he is making progress....and so are you!love it!

[angelmommy2806]

Keep it up!

[findingserenity]

I intend too.he will not put me down and though sd will stand up for him though hes being rude, I dont care.next time she butts in, im problt gnna say, is anybody asking for ur input?.. Assband thinks sd is here, he has an ally..well go ahead.

Quoting zannahdeux:

I think he is making progress....and so are you!love it!