Whats one reason your skids wouldnt be welcome in your home?

[AirForceWife13]

Just was having a convo with dh bout his kids. They are no longer welcome in my home. What would be a reason for your skids to not be welcome in your home?

[packermomof2]

I've had this discussion with my husband (I'm the mom, he's the SF)... I brought it up after a post similar to this once.  He couldn't think of anything that would make him kick my kids out.  If a kid was kicked out/not welcome here I'd leave with the kid and my husband would be out a wife.

[andie646c]

Physical violence towards a member of my family with no way to fix it.

Example: SS starts beating up DS and SO does nothing to help the situation. Refuses to discipline and refuses to put SS in counseling or get him help. I will not allow my own child to be in immediate danger.

Yes, this would probably mean SO goes with him. Obviously, if SO isn't doing anything about it then he sees nothing "wrong with it" so would not stay without him.

The same goes for sexual abuse against another member of this family. If the child is acting out in these ways and no one will get him help then I can not allow the child in my house.

[QueenBof6]

Abuse to me or my children with no steps to correct it.

[lilangilyn]

Violence or threatening violence. False allegations of abuse or other serious lies that damage parent's standing in the community. Setting a fire to the home. Hurting a pet or another child on purpose. Running away repeatedly. Hard drug use.

[lilangilyn]

Quoting packermomof2:

I've had this discussion with my husband (I'm the mom, he's the SF)... I brought it up after a post similar to this once.  He couldn't think of anything that would make him kick my kids out.  If a kid was kicked out/not welcome here I'd leave with the kid and my husband would be out a wife.

So I guess if they set him on fire while you slept, that would be OK with you and him? Or if they said he raped them? Surely there must be some boundary they couldn't cross. If they murdered someone in his family, would he still want them there?

[leegirl_jm]

My husband wouldn't tolerate violence towards his wife or his children, my husband is CP to our children so he is in a position to take corrective actions, he has no such powers where SS is concerned.

[FrillyMama]

Well if they had done criminal acts, hurt someone, stolen something, created overwhelming problems or something where I feared for my children's or my own safety, I'd tell DH that we'd have to work out an alternate arrangement.

[pdxmum]

What did your skids do?

SD19 is no longer welcome in our home. Should she want to make amends and work towards healing, no problem. She stopped coming to our home all on her own so this is a moot point. DH understands though that she has work to do before we expose DDs to her again. He sees her occasionally. No physical abuse, just ugly, hateful behavior.

[ShannaBee]

Physical or sexual abuse of my DD and any other kids I may have.

[angelmommy2806]

This. SD15 is no longer welcome in our home until there's been some changes. She's accused her father and I of multiple things, ran away, and who knows what else. She's at her mother's for summer visitation now and if the attitude hasn't changed she'll be checked into an in house facility.

Quoting lilangilyn:

Violence or threatening violence. False allegations of abuse or other serious lies that damage parent's standing in the community. Setting a fire to the home. Hurting a pet or another child on purpose. Running away repeatedly. Hard drug use.