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dh and i were talking the other night

Posted by on Jun. 21, 2012 at 9:05 AM
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dh started a new job a couple weeks back that is somewhat dangerous...we talked about setting up a trust and putting everything into the trust...the house, the 4 motorcycles, the investments etc...he asked me next, "if anything was to happen before dd turns 18..are you going to want to finish raising her?" my response to him was "hell yes, she's MY kid now"...

so i think tonight Im going to tell him that I want to adopt my sd...!!!! nothing will change in how she addresses me (she calls me by name, not mom)....but i now have comfort in knowing that she'll always be cared for if God forbid something happens to her daddy.......

by on Jun. 21, 2012 at 9:05 AM
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WifeyC
by Platinum Member on Jun. 21, 2012 at 9:06 AM

Until the adoption is finalized you can't keep raising her.

Where is Mom?

nsparky1964
by on Jun. 21, 2012 at 9:08 AM

the sd lives with us full time....mom passed from cancer nearly 2 yrs ago....

TempestRayne
by Donna on Jun. 21, 2012 at 9:13 AM

 That should hopefully make things easier for you.

Quoting nsparky1964:

the sd lives with us full time....mom passed from cancer nearly 2 yrs ago....


MommySabs
by Gold Member on Jun. 21, 2012 at 9:14 AM
If bm has passed then yes you need to set up some sort of guardianship if not adoption. If he passes now you will have no rights to her. Her grandparents will.
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LyndaLoo78
by Skeletor on Jun. 21, 2012 at 9:14 AM
I think that when the OBP is deceased it is prudent to have a SP (if willing) adopt the child, it provides stability should (God forbid) anything happen to the remaining BP.
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nsparky1964
by on Jun. 21, 2012 at 9:16 AM
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she is an incredible kid, and we have a beautiful relationship..sure we have issues, just like i did when my kids where teenagers (attitude,they knowing all..and her grades....) she may not be of my blood, by she is my heart......

baparrot2
by Platinum Member on Jun. 21, 2012 at 9:19 AM

 Could you just file to be her legal gaurdian instead of adopting her?

nsparky1964
by on Jun. 21, 2012 at 9:23 AM


Quoting baparrot2:

 Could you just file to be her legal gaurdian instead of adopting her?

idk...im going to call our attorney when they open and ask....

rebeccasmly
by on Jun. 21, 2012 at 11:02 AM

You mentioned teen years, so I am assuming she is a teenager. If she is, I would ask her how she feels about it or if she would prefer a guardianship instead. She's old enough to understand. My mom gave us the option when we were teens.


angelmommy2806
by on Jun. 21, 2012 at 11:32 AM

I agree with the other ladies. If she's old enough sit down and talk to her, maybe a guardianship is best.

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