This Sunday is my Grandma's (who raised me, a mom to me)funeral. My 1/2 sister asked to come, that's fine. She knew/loved my grandma. She was going to take a train her (she live an hour away..less 45mins) and us pick her up. Then yesterday she tells my sister not to pick her up (she's 16) from the train, that her mom was going to the funeral and would pick her up and take her (her mom signed over her parental rights 6yrs ago). I am outraged! I sent her an email saying her mom is NOT allowed @ the funeral, I will kick her ass out! And the funeral is not a place to fight! Sooo mad! Sorry just found out. *vent over*
ETA:
1. My grams was my mom's mom not my dad's. She not her ex-mil
2. My grams hated the bi*ch
3.Yes my dad was also to blame for the mistake (I didn't talk to him for years!) But she also was friends w/my mom before my dad ever came along. They were like 14 and friends! She knew me since birth she knew she was going to ruin a family (4 kids, 3 were 3yrs,1yrs,and pregnant w/#4) she knew what she was doing. She also beat the shit out of my mom infront of me when I was 9! (I was 8 when my dad cheated) she is by all definition a homewrecker!
And I wouldn't direspect my grams by arguing, I'd simply have her escorted out by someone else.
My parents divorced for the same reason. My sm was only eight years older than me. They haven't been together for 19 years!! & shes still the Bitch I hate.& still trys to keep my adult half sisters out of my life
Better to vent here than at the funeral. Now here's my opinion.
So, this funeral is all about you? I'm not trying to sound uncaring, but it takes more than just an evil whore homewrecker to wreck a home. I'm guessing this is her XMIL, right? Perhaps they had a relationship you didn't know about because you hate her. Or she wants to be there for her daughter.
SKs great grandfather passed away a few years ago. DH and I were all set to go and BM knew we planned on coming. BM was raised by grandfather. She thought it would be very helpful if we attended that way we could help with the kids. Her 70 some yr old uncle threw a temper tantrum. If we came, he would leave, blah, blah, blah. Unknown to him, we had been in contact with their family quite alot over the years since we had custody of the kids. GP and I had made peace with each other. Uncle lived in another state and I helped BM with GP since she was his closest living relative in the same county. Uncle felt it was all about him so he could dictate who could come and who couldn't.
IDK. Would your ex SM really create a scene at your Gma's funeral? Or are you afraid that YOU would cause the scene?
Maybe you should let it be water under the bridge...she wasn't the only one that cheated (but if she was single at the time she wasn't cheating, your dad was), your dad had a hand in it as well. Maybe tell her that she can come, but she should sit toward the back of the church and not with the family.
I'm sorry for your loss.
But, I think anyone can go to a funeral. You can't keep her from going. Just ignore her. If her daughter is going, having her mother there will be a comfort to her (your sister).
It's time to let go of your hatred for this woman. It was your father who wrecked his own marriage, not this woman.
2. My grandma hated the bitch
3. They had NO relationship
4. Yes it takes 2 to be a homewrecker..but it's a little different this crazy tried stabbing my mom when she was pregnant w/my youngest sister. She was my mom's "friend" before I was even born.
Quoting pseudomamma:Better to vent here than at the funeral. Now here's my opinion.
So, this funeral is all about you? I'm not trying to sound uncaring, but it takes more than just an evil whore homewrecker to wreck a home. I'm guessing this is her XMIL, right? Perhaps they had a relationship you didn't know about because you hate her. Or she wants to be there for her daughter.
SKs great grandfather passed away a few years ago. DH and I were all set to go and BM knew we planned on coming. BM was raised by grandfather. She thought it would be very helpful if we attended that way we could help with the kids. Her 70 some yr old uncle threw a temper tantrum. If we came, he would leave, blah, blah, blah. Unknown to him, we had been in contact with their family quite alot over the years since we had custody of the kids. GP and I had made peace with each other. Uncle lived in another state and I helped BM with GP since she was his closest living relative in the same county. Uncle felt it was all about him so he could dictate who could come and who couldn't.
Quoting whatIknownow:I'm sorry for your loss.
But, I think anyone can go to a funeral. You can't keep her from going. Just ignore her. If her daughter is going, having her mother there will be a comfort to her (your sister).
It's time to let go of your hatred for this woman. It was your father who wrecked his own marriage, not this woman.
I agree with you. I dont see where she feels the need to be there except if its support for your 1/2 sister. Personally if I knew I was hated that much by people I wouldnt show up especially if it was not my family. She could send flowers and leave you at peace to mourn without added stress. So sorry for your loss.
Quoting tiredmama42:I agree with you. I dont see where she feels the need to be there except if its support for your 1/2 sister. Personally if I knew I was hated that much by people I wouldnt show up especially if it was not my family. She could send flowers and leave you at peace to mourn without added stress. So sorry for your loss.
Quoting whatIknownow:I'm sorry for your loss.
But, I think anyone can go to a funeral. You can't keep her from going. Just ignore her. If her daughter is going, having her mother there will be a comfort to her (your sister).
It's time to let go of your hatred for this woman. It was your father who wrecked his own marriage, not this woman.
This. Your dad was the married one. Do you still harbor this same hatred for him? I'm not condoning the cheating but how many years has it been? You seem really bitter.
Very Proud!!!!!!
- 2bkayleesmommy
on Jun. 21, 2012 at 9:37 AM