Hi I am hoping to get some good feed back here. I am 29 years old with 3 kids and have been married for 5 years. I am head over heels still for my husband who I meet when his daughter was 2 and a half.I took her in as she was mine and loved her soo much spent time with her and had a blast.intell her mom didn't like it and told her X (my now husband) that I was not to be around his daughter or see her. After about 4 months I was able to see his daughter a little more due to us getting married.but the wall had already been put up. We then had a daughter who is now 4 and just had another daughter who is 8 weeks old. We have his daughter everyother weekend and everyother weekend all we do is fight and now starting to do it during the week also.I love his daughter I do everything I can for her,I try to help her.but the problem is I raise the kids I birthed differently then my step daughters mom does.my step daughter is 8 years old and because I forced the issue just learnt to tye her shoes,she just stares at the tv,doesn't remember to brush hair,or teeth,change underwear. I have a problem with that she is 8 years old. I try to help her tell her why we do these things and have her do chores to be a little more responsible.but my husband wants her to have fun at daddys.but I'm not into doing the weekend dad thing doesn't teach her anything but that's dads she doesn't have to do anything and the other kids do.my 4 year old has chores she does everyday she loves it and does them.when I try to talk to my step daughter its like talking to a wall a brick one.she looks away or stares at me and then turns around and does what I told her not to do.not cool.I'm just tired of fighting with my husband because of an 8 year old who wants more then anything to be just her and her dad.has really put a wall up in my relashionship with my husband and if continues I don't know where we will be.need someone who's been in this case to talk to to email back and fourth is something I would love someone who understands,can vent to and help me if that's you please please e mail me. Lastly I do love and care for my step daughter nut to me is is a little different I don't really have any say,I'm not her mom I didn't carry her,birth her which I feel makes a huge difference even tho my husband doesn't. And I told her mother I know I'm not her mom I woll never try to be she has a mom.which my husband also doesn't understand.
on Jun. 23, 2012 at 12:19 AM