My adult son lives 9 hours away and he came to see his girlfriend and go to the dr. in her town about getting his tonsils out. It is 3 hours from me so I drove up and spent the day with him, he's 25. I asked me what we were going to do for Thanksgiving this year, was he coming to my house or his dads or what. He said "You know, since this divorce neither of my parents have a room for me, not even a bed. I have to sleep on a couch or blow up bed in my sister's room. This has just broken my heart. My new husband and I are looking for another house but we don't want to move until his son graduates next May because he is on the school board and wants to give him his diploma and finish his term. Selling our house will take some time to do too I'm sure.
It's true, we only have a 3 bedroom house and his son has one, my daughter the other. If we can just get through one more year I keep telling myself. I'm hurt that he can't even stay with me when he has surgery because there is no privacy for him. My husband said my ss could stay with his mom but staying in another boy's room isn't comfortable and I know my son wouldn't want to do that. A guest room would be different. I just keep thinking about the conversation and had to post. So many casualties and little things that divorce and remarriage bring about for our children, even the grown ones!