My recent posts have even about bm "wanting" to be more involved w sd and doesn't like the fact that sd calls me momma and runs up to me when I pick her up and cries out to me when she picks her up.. So she blamed me for it anyhow.. Also sd behavior was like a wild animal she has no discipline by bm(it think thats slowly changing) Her plan was to quit her job and work part time and be more involved and be a mom she said.. I honestly didn't believe it but so far so good.. I'm proud of bm for keeping to her word.. I hope this continues..
So I decided to back off a while back and let dh be more involved too bc he relied on me to do pretty much everything..
So I did it!.. I still help dh as far as guide him when he's not doing it but I don't do it for him for instance baths I'll get sd undressed and turn on the water so hint hint.. Lol...
I'm a bit surprised how well he's handling it.. I thought we would argue about it or I'd be frustrated by no.. He really stepped up.. My sd even says daddy for everything now instead of momma.. Lol which at first I have to say I was kind of butt hurt but now I'm like hell yea go ask daddy.. While I sit here.. Lol..
Im starting to get it.. Its so much easier this way!. I don't call in the appts bm does them now.. Which I'm very happy she's starting to get involved!... I told dh I didn't want to go to Tuesday's appt that ill stay home but he said no that he wants me to go w him bc he doesn't trust bm(shes accused him of harassing her before at the docs office lol) so he doesn't want to go alone w just her.. Lol so that one I'm still working on.. But I focus on my kids and sd when dh is working and once hes off it's daddy duty.. And he's starting to say things like she's so cute when she does that and give her attention like he does w our kids.. So I'm pretty impressed w dh Lol.. I guess I really scared him when I talked to him last time.. Lol