My 5 year old never wants to call or go see her mom and we have no clue why! My DH and BM live in different states. ( at one point we all lived in the same state) Custody was shared and there were NO issues. Now when she is with her mom she crys non stop for her dad. When she would come she would break down every time it was time to go. I have heard of a daddys girl , but why doesn't she want to spend time with her mom.
Her mom is sending for her in a few weeks to come visit but she does not want to go. She is not being treated bad there, her mom misses her along with her other family that spoil the mess out of her. I tried talking with her and she says she wants her dad and mom to live in one house. That shocked us cause they have not lived together since she was an infant. I have been in her life she was 2. I really don't understand how to address this or what to say to her. She has to go see her mom, but all parties involved hate to see her cry cause she absolutely does not want to go. The weird part is her dad is at work all the time so it's not even like he is spending alot of time with her. What should we do?
Do you and BM talk? What does BM
And your Dh say about this?
Are all trying to make it comfortable for kid.
Try to pump her up. Make her excited about going. Tell Her tall can Skype or set it up to show her how easy it will be.
How far away is dad and BM?
Maybe it's more about her getting "homesick" than it is about her not wanting to see BM. With BM being so far away, perhaps it's the leaving her normal comforts that is upsetting to her. Could BM come visit locally and stay in a hotel or with family/friends and see if your SD does better?
We are Colorado and she is South Carolina. I will be honest it has not always been easy. I did not embrace taking on a full time role, but we do along really well. Sometimes more than I would like lol. But honestly we all try to do whats best for her. She was with her mom during the school year then us summers and school breaks. However cause she cried so often and was having such a hard time her mom decided to send her to us. In addition her mom took a job that made her schedule more hectic and she was like she needed some time to get herself together. However I have tried telling her how much her mom loves her, and how everyone misses her. NO ONE can love her like her mom and her mom got her to the world safe....etc.... We can barely get her to call she just is all about her dad. I would be heartbroken if I was the mom.
No her mom had her more. We had joint custody when we all lived in the same state. Then it was breaks and summers. When she is with her mom all she asks is how much longer till she can leave. he seems to be so excited that she likes him "better' but I told him this is not a contest we gotta figure out why she doesn't want to go there.
Quoting Steamedpuddle30:
Does dad have her most weeks and mom has her when?
Do you and BM talk? What does BM
And your Dh say about this?
When we first left she was living with her mom full time. This is the thing we are ALL from Michigan my husband took a job in Colorado and her mom took a job in south carolina . We have no family here and the same for her. So both of these are new places for her. We moved a year ago and she stayed with her mom , but her mom said she cried everyday , so this year she comes here and doesn't even want to go back and visit OR call, or write letters, skype etc...
Quoting QueenJessD:Maybe it's more about her getting "homesick" than it is about her not wanting to see BM. With BM being so far away, perhaps it's the leaving her normal comforts that is upsetting to her. Could BM come visit locally and stay in a hotel or with family/friends and see if your SD does better?
Idk, maybe the bond she has w dad is very powerful. It's really cool that y'all get along and that you guys are all trying to find a solution.
Google attachment issues. Im sorry,idk the wording for it. maybe some thing along these lines will help?
GL!
Quoting noneofmyown:Thanks guys !!! I think play therapy would help or something along those lines. My neice mom isn't even a GREAT mom and my brother has full custody but she dies to be with her mom. i have never seen anything like this.
Who pays the sitter?
- noneofmyown
on Jul. 2, 2012 at 1:00 AM