He had a child with her in high school after a one night stand saw the child a few times as a baby and has not seen him since he was one yo or so, the child is now going on 16.
I had fb emailed her about 9 mths ago letting her know that I was exh others kids mom and was working with our county's csea to enforce his child support to our kids.
She contacted me back today. We had a pretty good conversation and I was able to give her information to help her enforce him paying her cs. We talked a bit about the kids. Her son is aware of his half brothers and would like to meet them sometime. ( they are out of state).
Here is my conundrum- my boys 9 and 7 - are not aware of her child. My dh and I have talked about whether, when , how we should talk to the boys about him or encourage exh to tell them about him. We ,I, we're hoping that ex would bring him up at some point and talk to the kids let them know they have a half brother out there, but he hasn't as of yet and honestly I'm not sure he has told his gf he has another child out there that he doesn't take care of. At what point should we ( if ever) talk to the boys about hb ( half brother ) as he is curious about them and interested in knowing them?