Question for SMs of Adult Step-Children: How many of you SMs have a good relationship with your adult SC? especially if you were a NCSP?
My DH and I have a strained relationship with his 24 year old son, but our relationship with his 21 year-old daughter seems to be fine. When we see her, she is friendly, talkative, and fun to be around, but in between these sporadic contacts we never hear from her. As the SM, I decided I should step back and not push myself on her and instead let the decision to keep in contact with my DH and me be her decision. Since then. in the last few months, we rarely hear from her. I don't think, as the SM, I should take over for my DH to keep the communication open between him and his daughter. DH isn't taking the initiative to call her either. SD called Father's Day and said she wanted to take him out for dinner the coming Wed. or Thurs., but she has not called him back. It's July! I also feel bad that my SD might think I don't want her in my life if I don't call her, yet if she doesn't seek me out perhaps she doesn't want contact with me. I am tired of trying to figure this out. To complicate matters, she is probably torn because if she has a relationship with us, she might feel disloyal to her brother since we don't have a relationship with him (due to problems between us and him and his wife). Efforts at reconciliation with the SS have failed miserably. Help!