After all the drama caused in the family by my SD we are making some major changes for a while. My SD is one of those people that has a negitive affect on just about everyone she is around, yet everyone is afraid to say a word to her about her actions. Instead they have no problem telling myself and my DH how we change when she is around. She is a user and as long as she can get something from you she will keep you around, the minute you stop she makes your life a living hell.
On the other end of this is my future DIL that has been going to my SD house telling her everything that is going on down here and is upset at the whole side of the family because at the moment no one including my son she is marrying wants anything to do with SD. It has gotten so bad that not only my oldest daughter but my parents have said that they may not be involved with the wedding because of SD.
But because of some of the things that have been said and done we (myself and my DH) have decided to put a halt to many of the things that we have been doing. We have never had a second thought to helping our kids when they ask which is now going to stop for a while. No more family dinners or get togethers at our home, and we have decided for at least this year the holidays are not going to happen. As for the wedding planning I am completely stepping away from it.
All of this mess has broken my heart but when you are afraid that any and everything that you say in your own home is going to be turned on you, it makes you give up alot of things.