Hey everybody! I joined this group b/c my DH's ex has BPD (borderline personality disorder) and it makes things challenging to say the least. Does anybody else have experience dealing with someone with BPD?
Ahhhh, welcome to the group. I ignore my DH's ex mental case.
My suggestion would be to take everything she says with a grain of salt. My DHs ex is manic depressive and lashes out. When in court, she tried to say that SD couldn't sleep over becuase of the teenaged boys in the house (mine.) I nearly flipped my lid and told the lawyer to have bail money ready. Other than that, I try to remember that she is not all there and ignore most of what she says.
Welcome to the group.
You might find some answers in the Depression Support group as well.
Yes, my soon to be ex-husband. I'm very sorry. In that kind of situation, things are hard enough without adding a party with BPD to the mix. (No offense to anyone afflicted - living with BPD, from what I understand, is a cycle of misery, and the disorder is not their fault.)
Quoting Tpammt:yes, diagnosed but refuses to acknowledge or accept it.
How do you know she has been diagnosed?
MANY SM claim that the BM is "crazy", "psycho", "bipolar", among every other mental disorder.
So how do you know? Have you seen the diagnoses on paper or are you judging by actions?
Quoting Tpammt:hostile much? If you don't have something constructive to say, you don't have to reply. I was just asking a question.
Good questions because many people lash out at their previous husband/partner/wife because they're pissed and hurting. That doesn't mean that they have a personality d/o that just mean that they have a difficult time dealing with rejection, being lied to, transition, or just seeing their ex with another person. Maybe poor boundaries.
I get so tired of seeing other women and some men state that their new husband/fiancee/SO's ex is CRAZY, PSYCHO etc. Sometimes people act that way when they've been wronged. I personally haven't, and I don't randomly go calling my former fiancee's ex's crazy either (unless they've been diagnosed). However his ex-wife has been inpatient numerous times for mental health issues and has a diagnosis and does have issues.
Quoting Micole1084:
Asking how you know she was diagnosed is not hostile.
MANY SM claim that the BM is "crazy", "psycho", "bipolar", among every other mental disorder.
So how do you know? Have you seen the diagnoses on paper or are you judging by actions?
Quoting Tpammt:
hostile much? If you don't have something constructive to say, you don't have to reply. I was just asking a question.
If BP doesn't have the money to see the kid.
Do You Think 50/50 Custody Is Good For the Kids?
- Tpammt
on Jul. 6, 2012 at 1:09 PM