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Want to SCREAM!!! ** update CPS showed up! New update 10/2

Posted by on Jul. 10, 2012 at 9:53 PM
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As usual, dh and I aren't seeing eye to eye with discipline...
This is the 2nd time his son has threatened to "shoot" someone on fb! Not only has he made threats but this kids profile pic is of him with a gun (they

go up on Mtn n shoot at
targets n
shit)
First of all
his fb should
be taken

away... He also
needs a
talking to because that kind
of
behavior is not normal and

shouldn't b tolerated. I told dh he <

/> needs to explain the seriousness
of
making threats like that. But
Of course he gets all pissy when I try
to talk to him about his son! It's
bullshit!
And if he doesn't
wanna talk aboutit,
he shuts it
down immediately! He's

impossible!!!! What he needs to
understand is he's gotta get a
handle
on this kid now before
he ends up in
fing jail!!!
And if ur asking why I care or why I
don't let him raise his own son? Well,
I'll tell u why... My kids are in this
home as well and I don't want my
son (especially) thinking that type of
behavior is ok! It's bad enough he
snuck out his window onto the roof n
started lighting stuff on fire and then
stomping it out! Did he get in any
trouble for that!?Nope! And he did it
right in front of my 10 yr old son!!!
Ughhh! Sorry, I had to get this out
lol

Update****
CPS showed up this morning!
The woman said they received a report about step son's behavioral problems and that there were guns in the house...
She's coming back tonight to talk to dh (he was working)
She said she can "refer" step son to the PINS program and counseling but it's up to his dad to follow thru.
She also let me kno if anything happens and we kno about step son making threats and the guns that we will be charged as well.

 

New UPDATE: 10/2

He went to counseling.... 3 times. The woman said she didnt feel he needed counseling. She said he was just "impulsive"

SERIOUSLY!?!?!

Not much has changed... no more gun threats but he has become "hands on" with my kids.... My son is very intimidated by him. He grabbed a hold of my son and my son said, u cant hurt me or something along those lines and step son said oh yea!? Who's gonna stop me!? He has also pushed my 3 yr old daughter on a couple different occassions. IDK what the hell to do. This has taken a toll on our marriage BIG TIME! And I often wonder if Im fighting a losing battle! DO I try to get him into see a different counselor? or do I just throw in the towel and say enough is enough!? ugh

 

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SimplySybil
by on Jul. 10, 2012 at 9:55 PM
Dh took his laptop away n all he said to him was, don't do dumb shit!
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SimplySybil
by on Jul. 10, 2012 at 10:04 PM
He's 14 btw...
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elisesmom922
by Silver Member on Jul. 11, 2012 at 12:52 AM

Umm, hes old enough to go to juvenile jail for stupid stuff!! Maybe your DH should tell him that??

angelmommy2806
by on Jul. 11, 2012 at 1:10 AM
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That's not just kid stuff. The police could show up at your house for threats like that. Also if he did end up starting a fire it endangers the whole family.
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SteppingUp_AZ
by on Jul. 11, 2012 at 1:26 AM
My SKs schools have a zero tolerance for guns. My SS10 (age 8 at the time) almost got suspended for making a gun with his fingers and pretending to shoot someone.

With companies and schools paying closer attention to social media, I wouldn't e surprised if one day soon kids were punished at school for things they post on FB. maybe you can turn it into a way to teach socially responsive social media posting? It's an important skill to learn. Some people lose their jobs over what they post on FB. No time like the present to learn how to pre-screen your posts. (says the pot calling the kettle black)

Note: I love guns. I grew up in a gun toting, hunting family.
whatIknownow
by Emerald Member on Jul. 11, 2012 at 9:03 AM

You have rules for your kid, your husband has rules for his kid. Different parents = different rules.

I am sure it is frustrating but, it's his kid to raise the way he sees fit.

SimplySybil
by on Jul. 11, 2012 at 9:05 AM
How is a household supposed to function like that? It doesn't. Creates alot of problems between the parents and the kids...

Quoting whatIknownow:

You have rules for your kid, your husband has rules for his kid. Different parents = different rules.

I am sure it is frustrating but, it's his kid to raise the way he sees fit.

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SimplySybil
by on Jul. 11, 2012 at 9:07 AM
Plus, the things that I have issues with are dangerous situations that need to be addressed. If my kids were on the roof lighting things on fire holy hell it would b a different story.

Quoting whatIknownow:

You have rules for your kid, your husband has rules for his kid. Different parents = different rules.

I am sure it is frustrating but, it's his kid to raise the way he sees fit.

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whatIknownow
by Emerald Member on Jul. 11, 2012 at 9:08 AM

How well is it functioning right now? Looks to me like, not very well.

Be open-minded about another way to do the blended family. This way can work. 

Quoting SimplySybil:

How is a household supposed to function like that? It doesn't. Creates alot of problems between the parents and the kids...

Quoting whatIknownow:

You have rules for your kid, your husband has rules for his kid. Different parents = different rules.

I am sure it is frustrating but, it's his kid to raise the way he sees fit.


whatIknownow
by Emerald Member on Jul. 11, 2012 at 9:08 AM

why was your son up there on the roof with him?

Quoting SimplySybil:

Plus, the things that I have issues with are dangerous situations that need to be addressed. If my kids were on the roof lighting things on fire holy hell it would b a different story.

Quoting whatIknownow:

You have rules for your kid, your husband has rules for his kid. Different parents = different rules.

I am sure it is frustrating but, it's his kid to raise the way he sees fit.


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