I am a step mom to 5 kids 15-24 yrs of age. The 15 year olds are twins boy and girl they are the ones I have the most problems with. The 15 yr old girl lived with us my husband got custody of her because she hates her mom. Well, now she hates me!! The problem is she hates rules and NO ONE makes her follow them!!! She moves out again 2 months ago. I found out she was running her mouth again spreading lies about me and I confronted her about it, not in a yelling match or anything at he kitchen table with her father. I also found out she is drinking and smoking. All she would do is say idk and shrug her shoulders! Now, she wants nothing to do with her father since he chose me over her, so what do I do??? This is just the latest problem with his kids. His oldest son stole money from my son ( I have one child 18) and was never made to repay, he is working. His 15 yr old son was allowed to call my son names on the internet and was never made to remove or punished in anyway. His 21 yr old heroin addict daughter moved in with us for awhile to get "clean" to just bring her habits here and put my son in danger with her tweeked out friends who also tried to steal from my son!!! Tried to steal his motorcycle and tried to get him in a car alone with them!! I called cops of course now she wants nothing to do with me. The only one that has not screwed me over is his oldest daughter but I fear being around her for the sins of the others. This is just my life in a nut shell.
We have only been married 9 months, he moved into my house with his kids. I have no say over his kids and what they do. They have no respect for me or my home. The only time I am in the picture is when they want something, only because our money is joint. But they don't want to see me or be around me.
Any advice??? I just can't take much more. There have been so many other things that I feel my husband has let his children do. It does hurt my feelings because I don't feel I deserve to be treated like this. All I did was open my home and tried to make everyone comfortable and make them feel at home to the point where I don't feel like it is my home anymore.
Sorry for the rambling...I am all alone in a house that used to be mine :(