WHO HAS PRIORITY?

[waminnrose]

Single mom all my daughter's life. After mom gets married who has priority-husband or daughter?

[dawnnamarie]

SO heard really good advice from his minister while he was deployed. He felt like he was supposed to always make son priority #1. But the minister told him that the relationship with partner should actually be at least equal If not put a little above.
I thought it sounded selfish, but then I started thinking about how the family unit really works. If parents aren't happy, then that fighting it can cause a stressful environment and the kids might not be raised with as happy of a childhood.

[MommySabs]

Both your dd is a priority as a parent and dh has priority as your husband. They are two separate relationships.

[babyjen314]

This

Quoting dawnnamarie:

SO heard really good advice from his minister while he was deployed. He felt like he was supposed to always make son priority #1. But the minister told him that the relationship with partner should actually be at least equal If not put a little above.
I thought it sounded selfish, but then I started thinking about how the family unit really works. If parents aren't happy, then that fighting it can cause a stressful environment and the kids might not be raised with as happy of a childhood.

[LoriDeen]

When DH and I got married, we both agreed that our children would always be our priority. They are children and we are adults. We won't have our kids with us forever, and we will always have each other. That doesn't mean DH and I don't have plenty of special times together, but our kids remain our first priority. That's what parenting is all about.

[lilangilyn]

My husband is the priority in my life. My children are grown. Sounds like your DD is coming between you and your husband. That's not good.

[Momof2Stepof3]

Children come first!!!! 

[Pero1]

What examples can you give where you'd have to make a decision between the two of them?

[ArmyWife0606]

I would say they are equal priority.  I agree with dawnamarie, that if the parental units in the household are not happy, the child will suffer as well.  My husband put myself, his dd and our children on the same level. He must cultivate and maintain healthy relationships with ALL of us.

[whatIknownow]

If I were that mom, my daughter would always be my priority.

[Pero1]

Quoting whatIknownow:

If I were that mom, my daughter would always be my priority.

You mean you'd change HER nappy first? ;-)