Hello Ladies, so I have a blended family. I have two children from a previous marriage, 3 step-kids, and we now have one together. I always tried to do for each of my step kids as I do for my own. This actually changed sometime ago since they have just become rather disrespectful toward me especially when I ask them to clean up after themselves or to clean their room. I don't cDH and I have discussed the fact that his onsider it tit for tat, I just am not or will not reward them when they act this way with me. DH and I have had discussions about his kids being disrespectful toward me and or not pitching in with chores or cleaning up after themselves. He tells me to tell them and I tell him I do tell them and he says no TELL them. So I ask them and then it gets to the point where I am telling them numerous times and still nothing gets done. Finally when I tell them in a stern voice they do what I ask. So the other day sd12 comes and she sees a nintendo dsi my mom bought my daughter. Sd didn't know who got it for my dd but assumed it was me and then began crying. She said she didn't want to be here because I treat my kids better than her and her brothers and that I am always yelling at her. I was so mad when my dh told me what she had said. I told him yes I TELL her I do NOT "yell" at her and if she cleaned up after herself or did what she is asked then I would not repeatedly have to tell her. I can expect that from our two year old but she is 12. I told him how is it that you tell me to tell them in a stern voice so they listen and then I am the asshole? I don't think thats right. I know alot of this has to do with her being jealous of what my mom does for my kids but what do I do? Their mom and granma do things for them all the time and my kids never act out the way her and her brothers do. What would u do or have u ever been in this situation?
on Jul. 16, 2012 at 1:11 AM