gonna keep the story short as possible: s/o has a son, 5 years old i think. when child was just 2 weeks old s/o was hospitalized adn BM took off to another state with the child. s/o found this out when he got out of hospital. BM told him that she just needed to go home for a bit. for 6 months she lead him on saying she was coming back. reality was that she knew what she was doing and at 6 months she applied for abandonment and got full custody.
i dont need to hear the questions about how could he let it go on for 6 months etc. young and dumb is the answer. and as to why he hasnt seen child in past 5 years, well he lost all rights in abandonment case.
he hopes now that the child is school age he would be able to track down the child through public school records. Last contact from BM was when child was 3 years old. BM has remarried and s/o doesnt know her last name. heck maybe childs last name was changed too?
where do you even start to find a child in this case? he knows the state. are school records on file and avalible to public? if so how do you access them?
the BM has a job that requires a specialty license... is there a way to search by that? would her maiden name be on file?
just so hard to know where to start when BM has differnt last name that he doesnt know and we dont know if the childs last name has been changed.
and yes, i know that this is NOT my situation to take care of! just asking in case someone on here has suggestions for s/o. it eats away at him! at least once a month he has a breakdown over this. if nothing else he just needs updates on his son and pictures, just need to know that his son is ok and taken care of! he cries and shakes wondering if his son is being told that his dad doesnt care about him etc. s/o has a bank acct set up for his son and savings bonds and keeps a box of things to give to his son that he adds to often.