Many of you have said that you would want to be there for your children if their BF was in the hospital, so you would want a phone call from the SM instead of taking the kids to the hospital. I have a question about a situation that happened a while ago in our fam and just would like your opinions... (again, this happened a while ago and we can't change anything tha thappened, but since people said they would want to be there for their kids, I just though it would be interesting to see what people would have done in our sitch)
Anyway, a few years ago, SD's uncle (BM's brother) passed away very unexpectedly. Dh only found out because he noticed that BM put a bunch of pics of her brother on Facebook. Thinking that something was going on, he googled the brother's name and found out that he had died in a car accident a couple days prior. Dh promptly called his DD and BM to offer condolensces and we sent flowers and cards to SD and BM and family. We did not hear from SD or BM for 2 weeks after all of this and by then, BM told Dh not to talk to SD about it since she was trying to heal and bringing it up brought back sad feelings... (SD was 7 at the time)
Here's my question...how would you guys have dealt with this? DH was very upset that he was not allowed the opportunity to support his DD through such a difficult time (SD was very close to this uncle). He was also upset that BM never called him to inform him of what was going on. He had to find out through his own research and by reading the newspaper articles. Do you guys think BM should have called to inform DH that his DD's uncle had passed and that she was having a tough time?? Btw, we are in a long distance situation, so driving to her house to see SD wasn't an option.
Army Wife, step-mom to 11y/o girl, and momma to 3y/o & 9mo boys