A place to vent... Skids here for Summer Hell 101... Ding...
First, as a BM... I do everything I can to make it right. My oldest is 20. She moved 3000 miles away to WA state to live with Dad and SM for a year, then in HS... Didn't want to change schools so she stayed there by choice. My 12 yo... Wanted to spend a year with Dad... However, their middle school is FAR superior to mine, so she is staying 3 yrs. This is how things are supposed to work, right. Parents talk, put aside the trouble you all went through in your relationship and do what's best for the kids. Heck, I even watched my ex's SD overnight when they got engaged... Before they moved to WA. We get on the speaker phone and have family meetings, in which I told my 12 yo that if she mouths off to her SM again, she can pop you in the mouth. ( not saying she will... But the point got across to my dd not to attempt to pit ALL the parents against each other)
Was I in for a surprise to find out that not everyone believes in putting the kids first!! The Skids mom is a first class bit&h!!! DH and I have been married for 2 yrs. we now have a 7.5mth old son. The skids get "in trouble" for having fun here. When Wyatt was born, that first visit... They were told they couldn't hold him or kiss him or they wouldn't get Christmas presents. Currently this issue is in court ( in another state, they live 5 hrs away) with a GAL finally assigned. That's a different story... And I so need to vent right now.
HIS KIDS ARE AWFUL!!!! Now, partly because of their Mom but there behavior is off the charts. They have been here for 3 weeks. So far, they fight... All the time... Through punches, kick, bite, kick. They are ss(11) ss(9) sd(8). They have started fires with a magnifying glass outside, stolen 3 digital recorders, wrote on the deck in perm marker, lie, ect... It is a constant daily stresser. In addition, I also have a 4 yo... The only father dd knows is my dh. SD just found out an hour ago, has been whispering to her, " say son of a bitch Hannah" Ahhhh... Hannah, got her mouth popped by daddy a few days ago for continually repeating that phrase which I now know where it comes from.
Oh, they get consequences... Tried it all... Set by dh which we talk about first... They don't care. Even he says he doesn't know what to do. Problem... He works nights, and I only work 2 nights a week. So he sleeps during the day... I have to constantly be the parental role... And I HATE IT!!! His parents live across the street, and for our first 2 summers, they spent most of the nights that he worked with them. They USED to have a level of respect over there. Now, they haven't been over there at all.
I'm sick of being calm and dealing... Can't I just yell, scream and throw things.... Lol!!!
I have told him that him and BM are the parents. I am a secondary role, yet he works, sleeps, and I end up having to follow through... What FUN!!!
So far, they all have fallen in love with their new brother. I am a natzi on making every child in the house on the same level... The kids behavioral issues... And me being the one constantly having to be the bit&h... Are making me exhausted, and frustrated. ( though what was written on the deck was dad sucks... Not Kelly sucks...go figure...lol)
That's my life... Hello all!!!
Just chuck the kids across to street to the grandparents and lock the doors!!!
Seriously at that age-it's normal behavior for me-my brother 8 my sister was 9 and I was 13 plus we had a newborn-we were little badasses!!! There were days My mother had to literally lock us in our rooms because it was a fight to the death!!!
Perhaps try bribery (just to keep the peace) to have the kids get along-like if they can go 24h with NO physical fighting-they can watch a special movie TOGETHER AS A FAMILY!
or if they wanna fight-make them hug it out or write essays how what they like about the other kids.
With my skids- I just tie them up and stick them in the closet for 5min a piece playing halloween music. But I don't recommend that. Duct taping them to chairs also works-but it's frowned up. And for the tight asses in here-this whole paragraph is just me being a sarcastic bitch so don't take it literally.....except for the duct tape. AWESOME stuff!
you forgot spikeing the food with benadryl!!!!!! works wonders they take nice long naps!
Quoting Tigress22304:Just chuck the kids across to street to the grandparents and lock the doors!!!
Seriously at that age-it's normal behavior for me-my brother 8 my sister was 9 and I was 13 plus we had a newborn-we were little badasses!!! There were days My mother had to literally lock us in our rooms because it was a fight to the death!!!
Perhaps try bribery (just to keep the peace) to have the kids get along-like if they can go 24h with NO physical fighting-they can watch a special movie TOGETHER AS A FAMILY!
or if they wanna fight-make them hug it out or write essays how what they like about the other kids.
With my skids- I just tie them up and stick them in the closet for 5min a piece playing halloween music. But I don't recommend that. Duct taping them to chairs also works-but it's frowned up. And for the tight asses in here-this whole paragraph is just me being a sarcastic bitch so don't take it literally.....except for the duct tape. AWESOME stuff!
I do believe in spanking, HOWEVER, that did not work with my children so I gave up. What DOES work though is writing lines. 200 lines is where we start and goes up from there depending upon the crime.
1. must sit correctly at kitchen table
2. no you may not lay your head down
3. no you may not sit Indian style, or on one leg under you or any other way but firmly on your bottom
4. no you may not rest your head in the palm of your other hand
5. no you may not misspell a word when its written for you at the top of the paper
6. no you may not get lazy and produce messy handwriting
7. YES, you may get more lines added if you can not follow the above.
Why should I talk, yell, scream, pull my hair out repeating myself...you can repeat if for me 200 times.
you want to write on my deck even though you know better, well now you get to write 200 times " I will not write on anything that is not approved again" " I will not write on the deck" ...
my younger children get simple lines the older ones get the more detailed sentences. Just a suggestion for you, plus keeps them occupied for hours
P.S. my kids teachers LOVE this as it helps improve their handwriting as well :) One teacher added it to her classroom
Writing lines doesn't always work. I'm not going to fight a kid to write something 200 times just to appease me... that means I'm standing over my stubborn child telling them over... and over.. . and over to do it. I prefer other methods. Don't want them fighting? Separate them. Keep them busy. Don't spank other people's kids.
Quoting Tigress22304:Just chuck the kids across to street to the grandparents and lock the doors!!!
Seriously at that age-it's normal behavior for me-my brother 8 my sister was 9 and I was 13 plus we had a newborn-we were little badasses!!! There were days My mother had to literally lock us in our rooms because it was a fight to the death!!!
Perhaps try bribery (just to keep the peace) to have the kids get along-like if they can go 24h with NO physical fighting-they can watch a special movie TOGETHER AS A FAMILY!
or if they wanna fight-make them hug it out or write essays how what they like about the other kids.
With my skids- I just tie them up and stick them in the closet for 5min a piece playing halloween music. But I don't recommend that. Duct taping them to chairs also works-but it's frowned up. And for the tight asses in here-this whole paragraph is just me being a sarcastic bitch so don't take it literally.....except for the duct tape. AWESOME stuff!
Two were fighting one day, one stayed out of it... Immed brought him to BK for lunch and dessert. I reward good behavior...
I could use a days dose of stepford children...lol!! Though there is duct tape in the drawer... Baaahaha
Quoting packermomof2:Writing lines doesn't always work. I'm not going to fight a kid to write something 200 times just to appease me... that means I'm standing over my stubborn child telling them over... and over.. . and over to do it. I prefer other methods. Don't want them fighting? Separate them. Keep them busy. Don't spank other people's kids.
Oh, I don't spank them. That is their Dad's job... And if he would just stop threatening and giving 30 min or longer "lectures" ( what I call them since I have told him kids may listen for 5 mins... If you haven't gotten your point across. In 5 mins... Moment is lost) and follow through... Life would get easier....
Quoting rose0919:you forgot spikeing the food with benadryl!!!!!! works wonders they take nice long naps!
Quoting Tigress22304:Just chuck the kids across to street to the grandparents and lock the doors!!!
Seriously at that age-it's normal behavior for me-my brother 8 my sister was 9 and I was 13 plus we had a newborn-we were little badasses!!! There were days My mother had to literally lock us in our rooms because it was a fight to the death!!!
Perhaps try bribery (just to keep the peace) to have the kids get along-like if they can go 24h with NO physical fighting-they can watch a special movie TOGETHER AS A FAMILY!
or if they wanna fight-make them hug it out or write essays how what they like about the other kids.
With my skids- I just tie them up and stick them in the closet for 5min a piece playing halloween music. But I don't recommend that. Duct taping them to chairs also works-but it's frowned up. And for the tight asses in here-this whole paragraph is just me being a sarcastic bitch so don't take it literally.....except for the duct tape. AWESOME stuff!
shhhhhh don't give away ALLL our trade secrets!! lol
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- kellynh
on Jul. 21, 2012 at 8:59 PM