Young SMs

[MoreThanMost]

 Any young SMs with young SKs care to share stories,difficult situations(due to being young) adjustments to BMs...

FYI...

I'm 21 with a 4(turns 5 in Nov.) year old SD

[daddysgf]

Not a SM but I'm young :-)

[DDDaysh]

 I was 21 when I became a step-mom and that was definitely too young!  (And, by that point, I had already had a degree for almost 2-years.  There's more to it than just having your education.)  It ended badly, but knowing what I know now, that's hardly a surprise. 

[milmomma2006]

I'm 24 and have a 5 yo dd and a 3 yo sd. I'm also pretty new to the being a stepmom, my DH and I have only been married a few months. But so far, the transition has been relatively smooth. I don't have any difficult stories really. I let sd determine where our relationship was going and how fast and I think that helped a lot. When I first came into her life me and her dad had been together for a while, we wanted to take it slow so that we could ease into the changes. She's only 3 and we didn't want to turn her world any more upside down than it already was. So I kept my distance at first, only getting involved when she asked me to. It worked out great (so far)! She is now fully open to me, and sometimes even asks me to do things for her instead of daddy! Which is BIG because she's a major daddy's girl! Her mom always tells us how she always talks about me when she's with her, she's always saying how much she loves me and my dd and she misses us when she's not with us. It's all been a really pleasant experience so far, and I think my approach to it in the beginning is what directed it to go as smooth as it did.

[3Aces2012]

What happened? If you don't mind me asking...I'm in a similar situation

Quoting DDDaysh:

 I was 21 when I became a step-mom and that was definitely too young!  (And, by that point, I had already had a degree for almost 2-years.  There's more to it than just having your education.)  It ended badly, but knowing what I know now, that's hardly a surprise. 

[perroquet]

 "you dont realize how very young you are until your not"

[texasblundell]

I'm 20 with a 2yr of my own, and my man also has a 2 yr old, and we had issues in the beginning cuz he'd treat the girls different but it was a transition things are much better now

[MommySabs]

I suppose I was technically a young sm in my first marriage. Exh has a now 16 yo who he hasn't seen since the child was one or two. What I took from it was I should have learned from the way he acted about the first child and the way e talked about the first bm and realized he is just not a good person. I was much more careful when getting involved with my now dh after that first marriage imploded.
My exh is now engaged to another 22 yo. He has established a pattern bc he refuses to grow up he keeps dating young what he fails to realize is that 22 today is 30 tomorrow.

[ncmunchkin713]

I'm 21 and have a 1 year old stepdaughter. We are planning on trying to have a baby of our own in the next 1-5 years once I complete school. We have had one miscarriage already and after that I decided I'd rather wait til school was finished and we were settled since DH is going back into the military.

[MoreThanMost]

 Not yet but i will be in Nov.

Quoting whatIknownow:

Are you married?

 

[MoreThanMost]

 Impossible in what ways?

Quoting perroquet:

 I believe being a very young SM is almost impossible with only a few exceptions. (of course everyone always thinks the THEY are the exception. lol)

I dont even believe that it is good to be a mother at a very young age.