That's a tough one. If I were you I would give DS and DD their own rooms and then just put a bed in your DD's room form when SD spends the night. It is only twice a month so when SD is not there then you can lock up her toys so you DD doesn't get into them.
Um, 2 days a months does not require their own bedroom. Hopefully she has that the other 28 days of the month. A bedroom is for sleeping and for a child to have their own space. However, I think it would be fine to put a bed in with your new baby at least for a few years. It won't be like your baby will ever be in there playing by herself right away. That would give SD a place to spend alone time, without infringing on your son. Then in a couple of years just re-evaluate the situation. Our babies stayed in our room for at least the first 6 months, then they went into their own rooms. 2 days a month should not create too much drama.
Quoting rocknmom85:That's a tough one. If I were you I would give DS and DD their own rooms and then just put a bed in your DD's room form when SD spends the night. It is only twice a month so when SD is not there then you can lock up her toys so you DD doesn't get into them.
Quoting rocknmom85:That's a tough one. If I were you I would give DS and DD their own rooms and then just put a bed in your DD's room form when SD spends the night. It is only twice a month so when SD is not there then you can lock up her toys so you DD doesn't get into them.
I somewhat disagree with this. Step daughter needs to feel a sense of home there also. Even though she is only there eow, dh is still her dad. She should not be treated as a guest, but more like the other kids.
Dh an I have been together for more then 11years. We are a blended family. When we got together my ds's were 4 and 12...his dd's were 4 and 9.
His 4 year old was the only one that didn't live with us full time.
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I agree with you but only to the extent that it's possible and reasonable. Since DD and DS cannot share a room for more then a few years eventually they will need to have their own rooms. At that point then SD will have to share a room with DD but 90% of the time it will be only DD's room so it only makes sense to make it more geared toward DD. SD has another room with BM while for DD, that is her only room. I get making SD feel like she is a member of the family but not put out the other kids in the process.
Quoting mrswillie:
Quoting rocknmom85:That's a tough one. If I were you I would give DS and DD their own rooms and then just put a bed in your DD's room form when SD spends the night. It is only twice a month so when SD is not there then you can lock up her toys so you DD doesn't get into them.
I somewhat disagree with this. Step daughter needs to feel a sense of home there also. Even though she is only there eow, dh is still her dad. She should not be treated as a guest, but more like the other kids.
Dh an I have been together for more then 11years. We are a blended family. When we got together my ds's were 4 and 12...his dd's were 4 and 9.
His 4 year old was the only one that didn't live with us full time.
My SS and my DS are 8.5 yrs. apart. When my DD came along (SS was 12) I had to put my DS and my SS in the same room as we only had 3 bedroom houses. It wasn't ideal but it worked. I wouldn't worry about her toys and such. Just put them up when she isn't there and take them out when she is. I got the boys bunkbeds (eventually) and it worked out nicely. Only being there twice a month, she does not need her own room. Again, if it's only twice a month you DD will be find sharing a room with her sister. Eventually they will even look forward to it because it's like a sleep over. Even though the boys are 8 yrs. apart they would have fun sharing a room, making forts ect.
Now they are 7 & 15 and we finally moved into a bigger house so SS has his own room when he is here (which is rarely, it doubles as a guest room). At 15 he def. needs his own space.
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on Jul. 24, 2012 at 2:31 PM