I love my DH and because I love him I love my SS. Well we have been through the fire and back with his PABM(punk ass baby moma) sorry for the language but she makes my nuts hurt and I don't even have them. Anyway we I got with my DH he wasn't on court ordered child support but whenever they called he would get what they(PABM and Grandma) needed when he called and when they got mad it would be "I'm taking you down for child support and taking everything you got" so once we got together and they said that to him causing him to stress I made him go down and get court ordered child support which made PABM mad b/c now she didn't have anything to upset him. Then she decided that "she don't know me and doesn't want my kids to be a bad influence on her son" so my SS couldn't come over to see his dad he had to sit in her house to see his son and he would come home smelling like old chicken grease and cigarettes. So I said that's not gonna fly she doesn't have the right to dictate when you see your son go file for visitation. So...we went to the court house and filed all the paper work that was need to get our set visitation days. Everything was going well until my SS decided he wasn't gonna speak or acknowledge me when I speak to him which doesn't fly with me I am and old school mother and I feel like if an adult speaks to you, you need to speak back period. So my DH called and asked her way she is teaching him not to speak to me she said "when people are mean to him he doesn't speak and sometimes he just doesn't speak"...I was over it by then but I let me husband now that I don;'t have to do anything extra for a child that's gonna disrespect me. Well fastforward to Friday my husband had a Court Ordered visitation time with his son only to get told that this 4 year old said "he doesn't want to come because I am mean to him and I put him in timeout". That set me off one thing I cant stand is for someone to lie on me. I told my husband that this is some bullshit and I don't have to deal with it, if he will lie about that what else will he lie about, my DH said I done dealing with them and that his son can call when he wants to see him so I said he needs to call the Visitation people and let them know what happen on Friday and tell them what he decided to do. I don't understand why people act so stupid when the other parent moves on. Get over it get a live and do you!