Hello everyone,
I am very glad I found this site and hoping there are others out there with my same issues who can give me some insight. I am recently married to a wonderful man with one child. I found out about the child (not even born yet) when we first started dating. I gave him his space but we still ended up falling in love and getting married. I accepted his child and he accepted mine but I have been threatened (verbal/physical harm) by the birth mom constantly and my husband still allows this behavior to go on. I find myself getting angry and resenting my stepson and my decision to marry someone with such a crazy past. I am expected to take care of the child without knowing the schedule, the birth mom drops him off whenever she feels like it, picks him up whenever she's ready to and my husband is constantly helping and doing things for her which leaves no time for us as a married couple. I normally find myself alone and leaving my own home because once again the schedule has changed and now I have a houseguest. I am at my wits end and ready to bail...
Please help...
Signed,
On the outside looking in....
You and Dh needs to sit down and set down some boundaries. This would have been a good thing to do Before you got married but a little late for that.
you need to get dh to step up. i have had bm attack me and try to have someone else attack me. dh stepped right up and defended me. disengage from your stepchild dont do anything make dh do it he is the parent your not. do they have a co. what is the visitation supposed to be. do not let her invade your space pu and do away from the home.do not engage her. you dont need to. she is dh's problem not yours. if you have plans and she just drops off sc then dh needs to be with his child you do what you have planed. learn the word no and use it
I agree. You two need to come up with a parenting plan that works for you and he needs to put his foot down about the ex dropping SS off whenever she feels like instead of following a real schedule.
Quoting angelmommy2806:You and Dh needs to sit down and set down some boundaries. This would have been a good thing to do Before you got married but a little late for that.
What is the parenting plan court order?
If you don't want to babysit, then don't.
And I remember feeling like an outsider. Sometimes I still do. But that is less and less frequent and not upsetting.
Peace, momma.
Quoting FloridaMomma:
You need to get your DH on the same page with you.
Quoting pittmom6:Co CS...no CO visitation. They agreed every other weekend. He's been in my house every weekend since June 30th..
I think getting a CO for visitation it would make the situtaion better all the way around.
They think she took him and ran...
- pittmom6
on Jul. 29, 2012 at 9:36 PM