My DH and his ex wife are finally on better terms and can talk about the kids without fighting. For the last few weeks they have been meeting weekly for about 15 minutes to talk about the kids (sd 4, and ss 3). They have been doing this at our house typically while I'm off to pick up my BD. I thought this would be okay...I was wrong.
This last week when BD and I arrived home they were still meeting. I pulled into the garage and BM was coming out the door to the garage because SD wanted to greet us. Which she can do by herself but anyway. I said hello as did my BD and then BM went back in the house and closed the door. When we came in the house BM was still talking with DH and chatting it up about some event she went to the other night without the kids. Then she leaves and instead of going out the door she came in, she went out the back door, thru the back yard like she owns the place. I'm not sure why she went that way...very strange.
I know none of this is horrible, but each time I come home when they are meeting I feel like an outsider in my own home. We barely get greeted by my DH or the skids since they are all talking...he does say hello, but it's not like normal. She demands a lot of attention when she is around, it's just her personality and I am not that way so it's tough to come into my own home and be hijacked by the ex wife.
I'm sure I'm being crazy, but it's really bothering me. Any help, suggestions or guidance would be great. I'm tired of feeling frustrated everytime they drop off and meet.
And is it bad if I don't want her in my home? Maybe that is what is bothering me so much.