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college expenses with your ex? What does your CO say?
My 16yo son is going to college next year. Our CO says his father gets to stop paying CS if son goes away AND he helps contribute to college expenses. He is constantly behind to me in the "extra's" not covered by CS (right now to the tune of $2K) and we've been to court 5 times in 10 years being divorced over money. I have asked him (though I know the answer) how he plans on paying his share of the expenses. I explained that he has two choices: pay the same CS and not pay college or pay less CS and pay half of college like the CO says. Of course, if son gets full financial aid, he doesn't have to pay CS while son is away.
To further complicate this, he has had to "pay me off" several times over the 10 years after getting behind to me in the same types of extras (besides the times we have gone to court.) So, I told him that if he elects to lower his CS and pay half the college expenses, then he needs to pay them upfront. I am not a bank and am sick of him acting like I am. I also am not comfortable with him making a payment plan with the school because I will get the bill or my son kicked out if he doesn't pay them on time (not sure I can enforce it but will surely try.)
So what have you done, or plan to do? And, what would you do if you were me?