My name is Heidi. I am 42 years old , mother of 2 boys Drew is 20 and Brennan is 9. I remarried about 3 years ago to Dave , father of Morgan who is 12 yrs old. I am hoping that I can get some advice about how to handle my stepdaughter and how to get my husband to stop defending her all the time and actually team up with me the other parent. Blended families are sooo hard. The kids get along well , (my oldest doesnot live at home). But Morgan is spoiled and throws small tempers when she doesnot get her way, talks disrespectfully she told me she hated me the other day. I have talked to her nicely and told her that I love her and I donot expect her to love me like her mom, all I demand is respect. Especially since I brought her into my home to live. Her mother is a bipolar mess. My husband did tell her that even if I wasnot around that he wouldnot go back with her mom. I think she secretly blames me for her mom and dad not getting back together. My husband is a yes man, and with a bipolar ex wife he gave Morgan whatever she wanted and now I am here and there are boundaries and limitations and she doesnot like it....what do I do?