My absence.....new CO, possible miscarriage, ? for BMs? or everyone, really
The past week has been a complete emotional rollercoaster!
First, so as not to make this TOO OT, we got our copy of the new CO in the mail, everything we wanted joint custody wise, and if BM tries to pull her "homeschool" bs again we will get him even more if not primary. SS will be here Friday, YIPPEEE! BM and her mom are driving down with him but they are staying at a hotel, and SS is staying here. We get him for a week, and then he goes back to start school. and we start the new regular custody plan Jan 1st.
Thats the UP part.
heres the down up down up down up down up part that is OT.....
2 weeks ago we got our positive HPT....8 of them lol....this past tuesday I started bleeding and cramping. Off to the ER we went. Ultrasound showed basically nothing. No visible pregnancy, no remains, etc. HCG level was 129. At that point the ER doctor told us that it was POSSIBLE that I was just super early in my pregnancy, like 2-3 weeks, so they couldnt see on u/s, but that he thought I was probably miscarrying. obviously I was heartbroken, and so was J. We've planned for this baby for 2 years, financially and emotionally, its been a long ride for us.
I called my OB and she put in an order for me to have a repeat HCG on friday(yesterday). three days after the ER visit. Since tuesday I have still had spotting and mild cramping. The only time I have had any actual bright red blood or clots though is first thing in the AM when I get up. So yesterdays results came back, and my HCG was 277! So my OB says that is a good sign, but she is still concerned about the spotting so I will be repeating my hcg tests every 3 days for probably at least a week and a half. She said as far as she is concerned I am still pregnant, and she is treating me that way, and that I am likely only a few weeks along instead of the 4-6 like I thought.
Which is possible, I guess, because we were trying to get preg so we were testing every week, and the first positives I got were REALLY light.
Have any of you ever had bleeding like this in the first few weeks of pregnancy, and or a low hcg level?
To turn it back around to steplife, DD knows I am preg, shes smart girl and caught on pretty quick even though we werent telling her yet lol....so now we are talking about how to tell SS. we cant NOT tell him, because DD will! shes super excited about it.
We are thinking about just taking the kids to dinner or something and telling SS then. I think he will be ok with it. We dont want to tell BM first though because we know she will tell him first and probably make it into something negative for him before we can even talk to him about it.
Would you as a BM want to know that your ex was having a new baby, before your child was told? Would you feel that you had a "right" to be there when your child is told about their coming sibling?
I probably wont be on much Im tryingt o take it easy, relax, drink tons of water, and eat all this Jell-O im craving (I havent eaten this crap in years but it tastes soooooo good! But opinions and ideas to all of the above would be appreciated!
*ETA* we will be having three more doc visits to confirm this pregnancy before we tell SS....we probabl would have waited longer but that is no longer an option since DD knows.