I have a question. My little SD who just turned 9 has been doing these sexy dances around the house and whenever she's somewhere that music is playing. It looks like stripper dancing- it's awful, especially to be seeing my little SD doing it! We have a Christian home, attend church, keep the children active in church, she is around her grandparents who reinforce godly values... We also monitor what she watches on tv (because even some of the stuff on the 'kids' networks is junk.) She gets plenty of one-on-one time with her daddy - I encourage it often. She's been doing this since she was 6. She's been boy-crazy since she was 6. But it's gotten worse. Her dad just shakes his head, doesn't really know what to do except censor what she takes in when she's home with us. Thank goodness she has not been in cheer or dance, or it would be worse. But she has been begging her bio mom so much and has been trying to keep up with the stepsister over at her bio mom's house, that she has talked DH into putting her into dance classes this fall. I think he's going to have a battle on his hands.
I'm so tired of seeing this baby act sexy and try to grow up waaaaaaaaaaaay too fast. I try to teach her godly values and teach her modesty all the time.
(Thank goodness my bio kids are boys! Boys are so wonderful- they're never trying to be sexy and grow up too fast... They just want to be fed, want their toys, and need their mama's love and they're happy! )
But how do I handle this? We've tried ignoring it, and that doesn't help. When DH tells her "Stop dancing like that", she says "Stop dancing like what?" Then he has to say the obvious: "Stop dancing sexy", and then she gets this feindish delight on her face when she hears him say the word "sexy" as if she delights in her dad seeing her as sexy or something. Weird. She's only 9! She's been doing it since 6! And Dh gives her PLENTY of attention and one-on-one time, compliments her for her good values like her grades, her friendliness to other children, etc.... So I know that he (and we) are reinforcing the right values to her.
Anyway, when I talk to SD about it, she just smirks at me, yet eventually continues to do it anyway. And my DH has a pretty lame approach cause it keeps going on...