BM has long hair like superlong hair. its not religious she just likes it that way. well she wants SD7 to have long hair also.
her hair was not even cut until she was 3. she still had baby curls and all. well back when she was three about 6 months after Dh and her split SD asked me if she could get her hair cut and so I had Dh call BM and ask if she cared, she responded that she would take care of it on SD's next visit. well she didnt, and so SD gave it until the next visit and when BM didnt cut her hair again so she did it herself..she shaved the top part of her hair with some trimmers and cut her hair all the way up. When she came back I asked her why she did it and her response was "I tolds u I wanted it cut and no one would so i did"-BIg smile...So Dh promised SD that when she asked for her hair to be cut from then on we would do it. BM knows this and tries to guilt her out of it. She will say stuff like "I want my hair long like mommas so that its pretty"
Anyways its been 2 yrs since her hairs have been cut. it was down to her butt when she came home from her month long visit. The next morning she was brushing it out and she came and told DH that it was getting hard to brush and she wanted it cut. so we had it cut and layered. she even gave what was cut to locks of love "for the little girls without hair"- proud sm moment
when she got home she wanted to call BM and tell her about it and we sent pics so that everyone could see. her mother responded.."Why would u do that.. I thought u wanted pretty hair, its not pretty if u cut it." SD was speechless and started to tear up so I took the phone hung it up and told SD she was absolutly gorgeous and the next morning we dressed up and took pics at the park for good measure. She loves her hair.
I just cant believe that BM would take that stance with it...since then BM has called twice to talk to SD and she refuses to talk to her. She just runs to her room and says im not talking today.