We are a Christian home, and BM has no religious affiliation. DH and BM were together 11 years and neither of them were anything. That's cool; BM can live her life any way she wants. I'm sure BM was surprised to hear that DH was Christian now, and that on our weekends, we were taking SD to church. SD really liked it, even asked to go to VBS, where she earned a Bible she was excited about reading. That's when BM took a turn. She told SD she can't read the bible because she can't be a Christian, because she is 100% Jewish. HUH? She even tells GAL that she has always been strictly orthodox Jewish. Again, HUH? BM took SD's Bible away and SD says "mom says I can't read my Bible because I'm Jewish." Now, if she really was Jewish and truly exposed her to Judaism, I would think that is great. SD could be exposed to both and make her own decisions when she is ready. But BM doesn't do this - not even a little. She doesn't go to temple or observe holidays, or anything. BM just makes her feel it is wrong to go to church with us or be Christian.
I understand the basics, but I'm not Jewish. So to help SD feel less conflicted about the position her mother has put her in, we introduced SD to one of our orthodox Jewish friends. They spent the day talking about it, and friend shared traditions, prayers, even traditional foods with SD. So now she seems to think Judaism is ok, but that Christianity is still bad and refuses to go to church with us now. Begs us not to take her and asks to go to mom's instead. DH is dealing with it; I'm staying out of it, but he tells her she doesn't have to go and we all stay home together. Gives me heart burn, but I keep it to myself.
Anyone else out there dealing with this kind of thing?