I'm not bashing. I'm asking... and seriously looking for answers...
I read about it a lot in posts on here. It seems like its one of first pieces of advice offered.
It could be a generational gap thing, but I never even heard of it until a year ago, and I'm in my mid-40s. I don't understand it. I don't understand WHY a stepparent would do it. Why they would WANT to do it.
I don't understand how it is BEST for the CHILD. How does it benefit the child? How does it make a step parent's relationship better with the child?
I mean I can see some benefits that the Stepparent would have, but I can also see the negative repercussions it will have. I remember being a kid and some of my friends had moms and stepmoms who would say "Wait until your father gets home" or a variation thereof. My friends didn't have any respect for that, and neither did their friends. My friends wouldn't listen or care what that kind of parent wanted. To be honest, they were pretty much considered non-parents by all children.
I don't understand how that kind of negative is outweighed by whatever benefits are received by the stepparent. Are the negative repercussions even considered?