Hi ladies...I need a vent session and would love to know if anyone else deals with a similar situation. My finace will do ANYTHING for his kids...he loves them to pieces. This is a great quality and one of the many reasons why I am marrying him.
HOWEVER, he will do anything and break any plans if he has a chance to take care of them or have them more than the "schedule" says. (And let me say the "schedule" is a big joke....it is ever changing based on what she remembers it to be, or forgets, or whatever.) We have the kids over 50% of the time already. The week starts off with "this week we'll have the kids Mon, Tues, Thurs" followed by the next which may be "mon, wed, thurs, etc". I thrive on consistency and this is very hard for me.
So last night we didn't have the kids and had plans to get a lot of work done for our business. He receives a text during dinner from the ex asking if he has his daughter's medical card. he says 'yes' and she asks him to come and pick their daughter up from the MOVIE THEATER because she hasn't been feeling well for 2 DAYS and would like her to go to urgent care. I'm sorry.... why the heck is she at the movie theater in the first place? And where is her accountability as a mother? I understand that she has other kids with her but step it up and put your daughter first!
I understand that he is going to do whatever he can to take care of his daughter but it makes me livid that he doesn't push back a little and ask her to step up to the plate. He's setting a precedence to be walked all over but he doesn't see it that way. He says it's been like this forever and it's not worth the energy because she won't change. I admire his devotion to his kids but the fact that he just jumps when his ex takes the passive parenting approach really upsets me.
Thanks for listening to the vent. Any input would be greatly appreciated.